My son was a huge teen, just a giant human, and I used to tell my wife that when I was driving him around, I always felt like there was a bear in my peripheral vision.
As a dude who is 5’ 10", aka, basically just a teensy bit over the US average male height…
I am consistently, momentarily confused when anyone in/from the US describes me as ‘tall’.
Its almost always a woman that will do this, which makes sense, but I’m still always stun locked for a second or two.
I’m the man who didn’t get the man structure at birth. My body has always been super slim and feminine, even my voice 🤷♂️
it’s CRAZY how much bigger men are than women
i used to be a pretty big woman, 5’10/180 lbs. then i transitioned. same height (height gain on t is basically not real, unfortunately), and i weigh around 200 lbs. but now it’s WAY more muscle (no more boobs + at around 20% bodyfat). i’m built like a fucking tank now, i feel like i occupy so much more space horizontally. my neck and shoulders and arms and legs and everything are so much THICKER
(also, it turns out, men eat WAY MORE than women, too. all this extra mass doesn’t support itself 💀 easily need an extra 1000+ calories nowadays)
hah yeah :)
i’ve recently seen my cousin (22M) eat a whole plate of noodles with sour cream, then another one. i felt like i’m seeing a fire storm eat up a rack of dry wood or sth. meanwhile i eat like 3 tomatoes and am full :P
Men eat so much more than women, it’s a little crazy to witness sometimes! My partner is almost always willing to clear my plate after he’s cleared his and I’m so full I can hardly move haha
Age and activity level plays a big role here. For instance, a 30-40s mildly active man of avg weight might eat less than a smaller 20-30s active woman.
N of 2, but for example my partner (F) is a bit younger than me (M), and also a cyclist (about 3-4 times my volume of riding). She can easily out eat me, and will finish my plate despite being over 20% lighter than me.
Testosterone is literally a steroid. It’s sort of a reductive statement but you don’t really think about it often.
It basically acts as a multiplier for the “grow muscle” signals your body can produce.
Men and women can easily have the same outcomes for muscle mass and calorie requirements, but men might not have to work as hard to get there owing to the higher testosterone multiplier on average.I’ve also heard that it makes your skin act weird. Several trans people I’ve talked to have all mentioned that getting their hormones managed made their skin care routine either way easier or harder in a sort of “holy shit” way.
I’ve also heard that it makes your skin act weird. Several trans people I’ve talked to have all mentioned that getting their hormones managed made their skin care routine either way easier or harder in a sort of “holy shit” way.
can confirm. skin got 100% softer after testosterone blockers.
True, and my above statement could be due to testosterone reduction with age in many cases. Testosterone levels also have huge variances in men.
100%! I meant my statement as building on yours, not contradicting. :)
Any time you talk about hormones you have to couch everything in a thick layer of “usually”, “often”, and “tend”. Biology varies a lot, and hormones vary more than most of the stuff.
The eating thing is too real. I saw an adorable Mexican waif taking her lunch break the other day when I was eating my own lunch. She got some sort of enchilada type thing from Taco Bell, where she works so she can make her own dishes, while I got my normal Supreme Luxe Box.
For comparison, my meal comes with chips and cheese, a taco, a chalupa, a burrito, and a drink. She had a single burrito covered in red sauce. She ate half, packaged it up and took the rest home. I vacuumed up the crumbs from my wrappers.
Admittedly I can probably use her as a dumbbell/ bar weight, provided she can plank properly. I would guess that she is 162-167 cm, and 49-50 kg. I’m 192-193 cm and 104kg
This makes me want to work out more. I’m basically wasting my T on baldness occessonally getting angry when I should be sad lol
i mean, i got a recumbent etrike for getting around town. i get my exercises and my funs in at the same time i do my chores.
i’m incredibly fortunate that where i live has extant infrastructure for that. 20 years ago two lycra dudes got theirselves elected to city council and county controller, uh, i don’t remember what those boards are called but they got the infrastructure in. also helped a lot with the homeless programs so like, i like these lycra dudes.
Yeah bike infrastructure has got a lot better here too. I live in a small town and don’t even need a car, it’s great.
The homeless programs could really use some more support though. We got plenty of fancy private condos and overpriced rentals going up, so I fear we got the bougie nimby type of lycra dudes
i’m not really a big gym guy, my activity is largely functional, although sometimes i’m fudging it (been taking a large box of stuff on a walk, for example)
there’s some newer science showing artificial loading of weight will lead to a reduction in bodyfat, so i’ve been wearing a weighted vest. between that and walking a lot, i have lost a lot of bodyfat but also built substantial muscle because… i’m heavier
so maybe something like that could help you get workouts in?
I guess I meant more like getting strong. I have a hard time keeping my bench stats up since I’ve got a whiny back and cardio is more my thing (endorphins).
Personally, I try not to focus on body fat because that feels more negative to me. Like I’d rather focus on feeling good and making gains than losing weight. Less guilt involved imho.
I thought you were going to say that at 5’10 as a woman you were considered quite tall and now as a dude 5’10 is average.
😄😭 it’s still pretty tall… i could be a lot worse off. i’m not really interested in attracting the same crowd that most men are, anyways
Fair enough and I don’t disagree. As a dude who is a chest hair off 6ft I rarely feel small but damn there’s still way taller dudes always!
Meh, count your blessings. I know a guy that is over 6’8 and super thin. I am rather of average height and width, and still able to fit comfortably into seats.
Bro, do you lift for gains?
mostly answered here https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/comment/21006653
sorry, idk how to do instance-agnostic links 😭
that said, i only started working out after being on testosterone for a couple of years. and in those first few years, i still got substantially bigger just from the testosterone. so i mean, the testosterone effect is real lol
The size difference is cool, but only girls who have brothers realize the strength and physical difference. It’s even a bigger gap. My sister gets freaked out every time she sees me do something physical.
And I’m not even that big, just very strong.
I dated a girl who had been raised by a single mother, one sister no brothers, then she went to an all-girl’s college. At 25, I was her first boyfriend. I’m not sure I convinced her we’re the same species. A 5’7" 200 pound man dating a 5’1" 110 pound woman, I was almost twice her size and casually lifted or moved things she utterly couldn’t. She very nearly screamed the first time I picked her up.
This is why most responsible parents drill “never hit girls” into their sons. I thought it was the peak of gender discrimination back in the day, but turns out they’re just trying to keep your ass out of jail, so you don’t ever fist bump or body slam a girl as hard as you do with your bros. Heck, I’ve seen girls sprain/break their hands just hitting a guy.
Honestly, that is lack of training and/or technique. If you hit someone and break your own hand, you should either hit them less hard or it’s a life-or-death situation and a broken hand is the least or your worries, right?
Both. How many girls throw hands all the time vs boys, whose entire childhood was one slugfest (for me, at least). When girls hit girls, or boys who don’t want to hurt them, it’s not very damaging. The former has padding and weak muscles on either side, the latter has a trained professional limiting the damage.
I don’t understand the last point. If anyone, regardless of gender, were to punch me, and broke their own hand, I could hardly prevent that, right? Unless by dodging, in which case the punching and hand breaking does not apply at all. I can’t make my skull less hard.
You can take the force out of their blow by moving with it, instead of presenting a solid, immovable target. The punch will still connect, but won’t do much damage. Takes skill though.
The strength gap can be wild.
A while back at work two of my female colleagues were trying to move a full book cart to another wing of the building. There was a bit higher treshold in one of the corridors and they couldn’t raise the cart enough to get the wheels over it. I happened to walk by and offered assistance.
I knelt down to check the wheel height and instantly raised the front of the cart with one hand and guided it over threshold my other hand. While still on my knees.
My colleagues stared at me with a mix of awe and horror, having just realized that what was beyond their combined strength was just an easy task for me. And I’m not even a “strong guy”.
Also worth noting that men just tend to move heavy stuff more often, so you get practice activating the right muscles and using your leverage efficiently.
My advice has always been for women to strength train. Trust that you will not get bulky muscles accidentally. So many people try to diet and train for that on purpose and never achieve it.
I’m a largeish dude, 6’ 230lb. Sometimes I’ll see a person that looks like a baby deer and wonder how we’re the same species.
Sometimes a person that looks like a baby deer sees you and wants to climb that jungle gym 😏
As an actual 1.93m/105kg that loves a baby deer to climb me and use me as a jungle gym, we appreciate your energetic enthusiasm.
I’m much closer to your stature (and, I’m assuming, gender) than a baby dear lol
we do, tho, don’t we
Oh I’m well aware, I’ve had a few climbers
My wife (146cm) can confirm that opinion (I am 190cm).
6’5" here. Because very few people are noticeably taller than I am, when I meet someone who is it’s a crazy experience especially 7ft+.
I can recall being stun locked by having to look up at someone much taller than me 5 times total in my 35 years alive so far since middle school.
The opposite doesn’t really phase me until I’m physically holding a significant other. Then I’m like holy shit you’re tiny! Dunno why it doesn’t quite register until then.
For me it’s the hands. My hands are pretty big even for my size. I’ve shaken maybe 3 or 4 hands bigger than mine, and it’s a bizarre experience every time.
I have a photo of myself with the lead singer of Metalachi and it really is like he’s meeting Goliath. It’s insane
Are you sure they weren’t actually a baby deer?
Yes, but consider: big women
Speaking of, I actually found a partner who’s exactly my height. Not that I would’ve ever said that was a requirement, but it is nice being in a relationship with someone you can just look straight in the eye without moving your head.
My wife and I are the same height (slightly tall of average), and the best part is having to only minimally adjust all the car stuff. We are significantly different sizes though, so I did not achieve the lesbian dream of having double wardrobe.
YES
Wait don’t you have like a really tall wife? This comment has lore. thanks for chiming in, Turmund GameofThrones
Wait Capital Grail has a really tall wife too? Should we start a Dudes With Really Tall Wives Club
You should! Form a bowling team or something
I think we got enough of us to start a league. Because my wife bowls too. And i got a great restaurant for after league (when they tore down the old alley, the restaurant there was good enough to open its own location. still open, uh, they tore down the alley when i was a kid and i’m in my 40s)
Rip. Dude old bowling alleys are a treasure that people will not stop tearing down
and they only tear them down to build newer, shittier, more expensive ones without cigarette stains on the drop ceiling. FIST POINT: you could get rid of the drop ceiling way cheaper. SECOND PUNCH POINT: is a bowling alley without cigarette stains on the ceiling really a bowling alley at all?
193 / 104 here. Your guy needs to walk more.
Ummm… 190 / 84 here. But I think I have it about right. Yes I walk a Lot.
Yikes! I hope you don’t have a large frame. If I dropped to 84, I’d be 9-10 kg underweight. I really should be somewhere between 95-96.
Mate I used to be 196 | 76 now 196 | 100 need to lose a couple kilos
Still on the big side
I’m tall, yes. I’m below 20% body fat, so I’m not exactly thick. I’m cheating though. I was a competitive swimmer so at one point I had “achieved” 5-6% body fat. I was literally grazing all day long at that point. My body never forgot, so I don’t really put on weight.
Welcome to the club. I was also a competitive swimmer and I don’t remember a moment where I wasn’t eating or swimming. Even stealth eating during class. But I could not breach 70kg. Covid got me just above 70 so now I am right in the middle of the normal BMI range.
My swim trainer though. He stopped swimming but I think he forgot to stop chronically eating. He was probably above 150kg, so it could go either way.
Interestingly enough, I’m the opposite. Stopped lifting weights, cycling and all the other physical activity I used to do, gained 30 kilos over the next 5 years. Joy of going from being a student to having a depressing job.
The grazing habit stayed and the body for sure forgot how to burn 5000 kcal a day so even if I ate less than I used to, I still gained weight.
I’m pretty big, and occasionally , tiny people want to take pictures with me. It’s hard to believe we are the same species sometimes
That’s a temporary taxonomic error. Anthropological morphology takes time to digest evidence, but we are speciating as we speak.
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Was with a bigger woman for some time (as in large, not fat, just the right amount of love handles here and there) and it is basically the same thing. I was orbiting her (although we were the same size) and surprised by how cool it is when there is just “more” of a person that you like next to you.
Mate, if you were orbiting her, she has too much mass. Perform a slingshot manoeuver and reach escape velocity.
It was only a couple times in my case, but she was tall enough I had to look up when we were standing/kissing. It was nice.
I’m 5’2”, I prefer guys closer to my own height. Anyone from 5’4” to like 6’ works but that 5’6” to 5’8” is the sweet spot, no huge men for me plz, I’ll leave them to the rest of you
Being 5’6", that’s reassuring to hear that not I’m not a completely lost case
Good, you two now have met, I pronounce you two a couple. Please make arrangements meeting up in real life. Some travel may be required.
I’m 5’6, bisexual, and have done very well across the spectrum of gender. Height - like weight, hair color, skin color… -doesn’t particularly denote attractiveness.
Fr so many shorter guys have super high cute factor
that’s new. i’m 5’7"-5’9" depending on how bad my hunch is for the day. my wife is usually a little bit taller than me. most women your height that i tried to date just screamed “are you six feet tall” at me before running away in terror like they’d just watched a non-disney disney movie starring frollo.
Moo.
a cow is usually 800-1000kg. probably 10-11ft long.
Goals?
Then there’s my 5’3 ass.
Aren’t most professional weightlifters extremely short too?
No idea. I’m an amateur weightlifter and I do think it helps with getting a decent aesthetic build with less work though. I look pretty muscular even though my lifts aren’t that impressive. Not that it’s helped much with getting women interested in me. There’s other benefits to work out though and dudes appreciate it at least.
I’m 5’3" and dated a 5’4" guy. Kissing was great, I didn’t have to tip-toe or break my neck.
My partner and I are the same height and we can hug and put our necks together like swans.
That’s beautiful.
Just reverse the meme and you’re good
What if I don’t want to have a bed in my man, or he’s just not into it?
Oooohhhh you, you got me with the ol’ lemmy switch the change the thing around oh hoo hooody hoo
Yeah what I did was change it but inna differenter way u c. Very smort and witty?!
Only 110 kg
Rookie numbers!
