• Tuxman@sh.itjust.works
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    I’ve heard the argument that as soon as there is one common bathroom, women will get stalked and raped in there….

    Sorry to burst your bubble but if someone wanted to attack you, it’s not a triangle dress on a sign that would have stopped them.

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      It can. Mostly because if a person enters wrong bathroom, everyone there will focus on them. With women going into attack mode.

      Except that if not there, that person will find another moment. x_x

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        You’re getting downvoted, but I’m extremely cautious of unisex bathrooms because a creep did exactly this at a bar, using the guise of the unisex bathroom to follow me in and sexually assaulted me.

        As you stated, I’m sure he would have found any avenue to isolate me without causing suspicion that he could have found, but this certainly provided an easy method for him.

        Also, edit to add: this was a couple years ago and I’m doing much better now :). Fuck that guy though, I hope he gets hit by a garbage truck.

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        Do you think these assaults are happening in crowded bathrooms? Or that other women will ignore an assault simply because the bathroom is unisex?

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    We have 1 unisex bathroom (literally 1 toilet) on the entire campus here, tucked away in a corner. I only ended up finding it by accident in my 3rd year. I personally would be in favor of removing the distinction everywhere, but I doubt that’s going to happen. There was some strange blowback from some people who didn’t like the change. On one hand, it felt pretty weird considering 99% of students didn’t even know of the existence of said toilet before, but it became clearer to me after seeing how it was communicated.

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      I went to a theatre a few months ago that had the bathroom setup with several stalls that had full floor to ceiling walls and doors and an open sink area. There was a wall blocking the view of the main entrance to the building, but it was open enough that, at least to me and granted I am a CIS white male, it seemed like a solid setup that didn’t feel so isolating that were something to happen in there, someone would pretty quickly know.

      I thought that style of setup should be the norm, honestly I think it’s the weird stalls that don’t actually block anything and have locks that 80% of the time are misaligned and broken that prevent us from having decent unisex bathrooms. Also, we don’t need urinals they don’t really save any room or anything.

      The only other change I’d make with this setup is I’d probably have a separate room for baby changing stations just because the one example I had was small enough that if you had that in there, it would just be in the way of people trying to get in and out.

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    There’s a restaurant near me that doesn’t want to do unisex bathrooms because politics. Even though they’re single occupancy.

    But if someone is waiting for the gender-specific bathroom, they’ll regularly tell them they can just use the other one.

    🤷‍♂️

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      Oh you see that at bars all the time. Utterly stupid.

      When I was at university in the late 2000s they did that with the university toilets, there was just a row of them off a corridor, all self-contained with a sink in everything, half of them were male and half of them were female, but there was literally no difference. No one ever paid any attention to the signs on the doors. No one ever cared back then.

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    I went to an Alamo Drafthouse once with an interesting bathroom set up.

    When you walk up to the restroom, there’s a large bay of sinks. To the left is a door that leads to a room of urinals and to the right is a hallway of stalls. Everyone just goes where they need to and since the sinks are out in the open where everyone sees and passes by, there’s more social pressure to wash your hands.

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      The best, bar none, engendered public restroom I’ve ever seen was less of a restroom and more of an area. It was basically just a hallway coming from a main area in the establishment. The hallway was lined with doors. Each was a “stall” that was just a closet with a toilet. Full hight doors for privacy. At the far end of the hall was a line of sinks to wash your hands afterwards.

      Now, do I think this is perfect and cannot be improved? Hell no. It’s pretty flawed, but I’ll tell you that it’s less flawed than what most buildings that are open to the public have… Far less flawed. Gendered bathrooms are weird. IDK why people are so adamant about keeping them. I mean, I don’t have a men’s room and a ladies room at my house, do you?

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        Yeah, they’re great, I hadn’t seen or heard about those before going to that Alamo. A hallway of stalls is a better phrase for describing it than I used. I did like that the alamo drafthouse had a room for urinals, so you don’t end up with pee all over every street from missed aiming.

        They could add a little dispenser of cleaner to the stalls, like they have at bucees. It’s like a soap dispenser at the sink. You squirt it on some toilet paper and can use it to make sure the seat is clean before you sit down.

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        I’ve never understood the privacy argument. There’s a door for a reason so no one can see anyone in there anyway. Do women not want men watching them wash their hands? I don’t get it.

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          I get it if they’re your typical stall doors, those things are not great for privacy, but anything more robust than that, I would agree with you.

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    Don’t tell the fascists that the bathrooms in their homes are unisex.

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    Bonus tip: If there’s no witnesses around, you can put an official-looking unisex bathroom sign on any stray bathroom. Most people aren’t gonna question it.

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        patriarchy enforces itself on boys starting as early as when they’re five (that’s when i was first told boys and girls can’t be friends). the patriarchy supports the types of people who are consistently republican. republicans consistently step in to defend and enforce patriarchy. if you’re familiar with the shit Akademiks got caught doing recently, that’s… that’s how patriarchy enforces itself on boys when they’re 13-16. it’s republicans doing the grooming, and republicans accusing us of grooming. and so we are clear, i am not letting the democrats off the hook here. their tolerance of intolerant philosophies is actively harmful to our survival effectively they groom us to be groomed for our patriarchal roles

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      My fifth grader is going to go through his “human growth and development” series this spring in school, and they’ve stopped separating them by gender and everyone is all in the same classroom. Very different than when I did it in the mid-90s. It’s especially good because there’s kid at school who is nonbinary and I know of at least one other who is questioning.

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    All for it though it’s best done when renovations are possible. Was at a place where they did it with multistall bathrooms and you had to guess which one had urinals.

    Edit: of course could also just add a sign saying urinals here.

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        They’re super good for efficiency though; water, time, and space efficiency. Particularly the modern ones that basically have a one-way fluid valve so they don’t require flushing. It’s unfortunate that not everyone can use them.

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      There should be two restrooms. One with only stalls, one with only urinals. That way we get the efficiency gains of urinals (very important at football stadiums), and nobody has to see a dick if they don’t want to.

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        I mean, I don’t know who goes to public bathrooms to see dick. I don’t even want to be in there in the first place. Seeing someone else’s bits is pretty low on the list of things I want to see in there, right above shit smeared walls.

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          At over 50 years old, I don’t think I’ve ever seen another man’s dick in a bathroom.

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            I’ve been to a handful of old athletic buildings that had trough urinal setups that made having peripheral vision basically a guarantee that you’ll catch a glimpse. A couple others that were circular but I wasn’t sure it wasn’t a sink so I left it alone.
            Also improperly supervised kids who are almost tall enough for the urinal and entirely trop trow.

            Seeing random disinterested anatomy in passing doesn’t hurt anyone, so I don’t get why people get so worked up over it.
            Seeing a penis is harmless. Being shown a penis is what can be messed up.

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            In my experience the most common sighting of the men’s dicks in the bathroom is when some 60 year old is wandering around stark naked in the gym changing rooms. I think it’s a requirement past a certain age that you do that.

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      There should be two restrooms. One with only stalls, one with only urinals. That way we get the efficiency gains of urinals (very important at football stadiums), and nobody has to see a dick if they don’t want to.

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    When I had digestive issues, I was a shy pooper, and just the thought of a stranger lady, let alone a stranger dude making eye contact thru the stall gap was… Unpleasant. Now that I learned very simple exercises to push the poop thru the intestines, and I drop human scat that could choke an anaconda. You are all welcome to bask in my glory in a unisex bathroom if that is truly what you wish.

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      stall gap

      Just get rid of the door gap too. Having a gap in the bathroom stall instead of a proper door is an American thing, not a public rest room thing.

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        What’s the gap for anyway? Do they think someone’s going to lock themselves in and they’ll need to perform some commando rescue?

        The doors can be unlocked from the outside anyway with a coin

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          It started as a cost savings measure for prefabricated bathroom hardware. Tight joints need to be precise and loose ones can work around existing stuff. If your 1913 factory bathroom has rough cement floor, needing to cut wood for a tight fit is expensive, but installing some posts and hanging wall panels from them to the walls doesn’t change in price. If your plumbing hardware isn’t under the floor or behind the wall you can just put the panel over the pipe, or in front of it. No floor corner means no dust buildup, just spray the whole thing down with a hose and let it dry or flow to a floor drain if you’re fancy.
          For modern cost savings: if you have a 9" floor gap a much smaller bathroom qualifies as an ADA compliant accessible stall since it doesn’t block wheelchair users feet. Full length panels require a larger stall to allow the wheelchair user to turn the chair.

          All of that made it cheaper to have awful gaps, so people did. Now it’s cheaper to replace panels with equivalent ones, and use the most readily available cheap panel when building new bathrooms.

          All the moral panic reasons are also true, but they’re the last step before"… And that makes costs go up". Drug use and lewd activity occupy stalls, which reduces availability which means you need more. Relaxed environment makes people take longer, which reduces availability.

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          Moral excuses aside, it’s money. Huge gaps means less material, one-size-fits-all installation, and arbitrary tolerances in production. Same reason the latches constantly break or get stuck - the whole setup is mass-produced as cheaply as possible.

          But it’s not a good way to save money. On top of the obvious safety and privacy benefits, bathroom quality can completely change a person’ opinion of an establishment and is worth investing in.

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          The excuse is usually something about some moral panic like people doing drugs or having sex in the stalls.

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      There’s only really two things I want in life now.

      Bathroom stalls that you can’t see in.

      And to be an anaconda.

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        Wait, what? Don’t you guys just whip’em out and have sword fights where you live?That’s what we do where I come from.

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          We twirl them like an idling Cessna while loudly discussing sports in front of the only sink where I come from.

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      I’m having a hard time seeing the issue here. Dads bring their kids to the bathroom too. And if you mean changing diapers, most changing stations are right next to the entrance.

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      You realize people go to the bathroom to pee and poop, right? Nobody’s slingin’ their dicks around and having sword fights.

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          Let me rephrase your question.

          Why does a subset of women choose the women’s bathroom, instead of men’s bathroom?

          Mhm I don’t know… Maybe… Just maybe… Because they are women? And they want to live their lives as what they are?

          Not sure.

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            But OP wants there to be unisex bathrooms, and the reason for this entire comment thread, and that’s in direct contrast to what you just said, wouldn’t this subset still want there to be women only bathrooms if they want to live their lives as what they are, without having to share the bathroom with men? * edit: not sure

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              Yeah they would want to live as other women do. They, as women, would do as other women would do and go to the unisex toilet.

              There are some unisex toilets, cis and trans women have happily used these toilets.

              I am interested in that direct contrast, wanna explain?

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    Single-person bathrooms? Of course. Multi-person use? How many of y’all women want to share a confined space with random men?

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      Are you concerned the women are going to be attacked in the bathroom or is it about discovering that women also take shits?

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        My grandmother always said that women don’t fart, they toot. Didn’t exactly hold true when she ripped one when she thought nobody would hear her.

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        I dunno, maybe mothers aren’t going to want to bring their children into bathrooms men are whipping their dicks out in. Just a thought.

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          What about fathers with children? My dad brought his young daughters into the men’s room when we were out in public, because supervision is more important than the other patrons.

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            Why don’t you ask Trans Women why they don’t want to use the Men’s room any longer. Seems if there was no issue with men, I dunno, often found washing their cock, balls and assholes in the bathroom sinks, and OP’s idea that we can all be kumbaya in a Unisex bathroom, Trans Women would want to spearhead the movement, by using the Men’s rooms, but they don’t want to, and there’s an excellent reason they don’t.

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              That reason is that they don’t want to other themselves. If there’s no gender connotation with the room you choose, there’s no issue. Trans people are absolutely pushing for unisex bathrooms, and most women (cis and trans) are willing to use the men’s room when the other line is long enough.

              I’ve seen women doing the same thing in bathrooms, because everyone is sometimes a mess, regardless of gender.

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          I think you just need to stop doing that, as nobody else seems to be responding positively to the idea.

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          This is the second time you’ve commented about men “whipping their dicks out” in public restrooms.

          You seem to have zero worries about men bringing their children into bathrooms where women are whipping their vag out though…

          Is it because women don’t whip their vag out in public restrooms? Well, have I got news for you about what men go to the restroom for…

          (Hint: it doesn’t involve whipping.)

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            it doesn’t involve whipping

            I dunno. When I shake my dick after peeing, I like it to make a sonic boom.

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      I’m probably out of touch but…what do we actually expect to happen?

      Would guys be embarrassed that random girls might see their dick at a urinal?

      Do we expect random sex in public bathrooms?

      Disclosure that I do not have a dick.

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        Some people seem to think that public toilets need urinals and that urinals couldn’t be at e.g. the end of the toilet behind a cover, so people don’t have an accidental peek on a dick.

        On entry, A sideview of the urinals and potential dicks are mandatory. If not at least 6 women see me pee against their will, I will sue the government. Look at my dick, woman!!!/s

        People are just weird and can imagine that, like you don’t go out of your way to look at people change in locker rooms, you don’t go out of your way to see dicks on a public bathroom and that obviously unisex toilets would change how we build toilets.

        As a man, I haven’t seen an other man’s dick on the toilet in months… Honestly I think years but I don’t want to lie.

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      Well with the bathrooms divided shitty things already happen. I’d actually like to counter your point and say this’ll actually improve the issue. If someone has a bunch of guys ready to beat their ass if they do something fucked up, they might decide against it. Literally everyone in that bathroom would have to be a piece of shit person to let something like that happen whereas right now you just need one piece of shit to sneak into the other bathroom.

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      I absolutely would not care in the slightest. If they get weird or handsy they are getting pepper spray and charges pressed.

      Edit: typo

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        And at the same time if you had a bunch of other guys in the bathroom to beat his ass that’d be a plus too. I ain’t afraid to punch a pervert in his stupid face.

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      Maybe just better Multiperson bathrooms or single person only?

      Honestly Bukiees the gas station, has a pretty great Multiperson bathroom experience. Add just a little more to that so that they washing area can be fully public (i.e. cameras), and for some places with less traffic some occupancy sensors for the toilet rooms, and bam. We can have private, safe feeling bathrooms that can handle higher volumes. No need to have people feel like their in little assault traps regardless of gender.