RIP the little that was already left of my brain, after I figured it out :p

Depends what you’re interested in?

Poetry, I would suggest quite a few poets. If I had to pick one it would the French Paul Eluard… which is not even the greatest poet in my opinion, just the one I first fell in love with as a young reader. If not him I would pick Baudelaire (another French poet) or maybe René Char. In English this time, the amazing Emily Dickinson. Those wrote verses I would love to read one last time when time comes.

Philosophy? Here again it all depends the languages you can read. Spinoza, Nietzsche, Plato, Aristotle. a few selected pages from Marx. Jean-Jacques Rousseau, Diderot are way too often not read by too many people that so poorly speak of them and their ideas. Which is kinda sad but also very telling our days. I would consider re-reading Emmanuel Levinas.

Spirituality? I mean, the New Testament is a great text whether you believe in a god or not. So is Marcus Aurelius, or Saint Augustin.

Novels? Tolstoy ‘War and Peace’ and his ‘Anna Karenina’ (the best novel that was ever written), or my dear Flaubert ‘Madame Bovary’ (or his “La tentation de Saint Antoine”), Marcel Proust “A la recherche du temps perdu” (but here one would need to die real slow to be able to read it from start to finish ;)

Plays? The complete work of Molière, which is still the best playwright ever along with Racine, Shakespeare and the Ancient Greeks.

Or maybe get a taste of the root of all Western literature? Read Homer. Or a personal lifelong companion of mine: Ovid’s ‘Metamorphoses’, a book that quite literally…metamorphosed my life.

Or maybe some comics? Watterson’s “Calvin & Hobbes” would be my first pick. Then some Asterix (from the time their original creators were both alive, not their modern reboots)

(from France)

My phone is not rooted. I barely used it, like barely at all (I only have the required apps I need to access to, not a single app more), so I don’t need to tweak it in any way.

I show my ID when I’m required to.

Sorry I cannot help you more than that.

didnt expect to see “phone bad, book good” on lemmy

(edit: Your) Expectations do say a lot more about you than they say about me.

I would suggest you re-read my comment and if you can’t find any reason to reformulate your answers by all means feel free to block me. I won’t mind at all because it’s more than likely that your expectations about my person will not be met. And I would not want for you to be disappointed, obviously.

With the two recent posts and my long day keeping an eye on these, i decided to update the community’s rules.

I was a bit out of the loop (preparing our move from one apartment to another) but I’ve noticed a few… angry posts and some comments too.

We need more nuances.

This, 100%. Which is closely related to what I’ve be saying for a while now: we need to be more… open to whatever/whomever we disagree with. That is if we want the fediverse to become… more than a niche thing. We need to be fine with the fediverse not being ours, not being a perfect reflection of whatever our own values and preferences are.

Thank for reading this long post,

Thank you for working hard to make this space a better place. Much appreciated :)

because most (or at least too many) people do believe they become wiser getting older. Which is… a bit optimistic, to say the least, and at least as simplistic.

screen time is just a limit on time to learn if the kid is using it for the right purposes which you should teach them to

That too is a bit simplistic.

Screen time is (supposed to be) a teaching/control tool. Like school used to be about teaching kids limits and the value of hard work. Screen time is supposed to help kids learn there is a life outside of that phone… a very worthy motivation that completely fell flat when those kids can see adults around them waste their entire life on said phone, doing more or less stupid things like some junkies do their drug things.

But no matter how stupid adults can be around kids, the idea of giving kids some help in learning selfcontrol is great…A bit like putting safety wheels on a bike is a great idea when a kid first learn to ride a bike.

As far as “the right purpose” goes, like we would all agree that learning stuff would be one such right purpose, I would be devastated to see kids only get their knowledge through a phone. Even more so realizing kids can’t focus on a single task much anymore. Here in France, the gov recently published a study revealing that something like 40+% (if not 50+, I can’t recalll the exact number) kids that are reading books (on their phone or on paper) also use their phone at the same time to do other things (social, or videos like TikTok, or even play games). And then one will wonder why school results are collapsing…

Think about it for a moment: it’s a lot more frightening for them… As most of the time we’re a much bigger creature compared to them. How much bigger are you than a mouse or some small bird? A 1000 times? 2000? More? you are frightening them when you’re getting close, they are not frightening you ;)

But please, do keep in mind that wildlife doesn’t need to be ‘catched’ or even ‘touched’ to be appreciated or observed (or just to be liked), they’re living creatures that should be respected, not fluffy toys to play with. Touching a young bird for example could make it so that its parents won’t recognize it anymore and will stop feeding it. Which won’t end well for said birdy.

Observing them is much safer (for them and also for you if you’re really that afraid ;) and not less exciting if you’re asking me.

Birds, for example, can be watched from afar. It’s even simpler as they won’t notice you. Which is made easier using binoculars (and, yes, when I’m going out I always carry a tiny pair with me just for that). Depending the binoculars you use, pick one pair that has a real close focusing distance, you can also use them to easily watch plants and tiny insects. Which is at least as exciting imho ;)

If you want to get your kids interested in nature, maybe a great starting point could be what’s called “nature journaling”, aka the practice of keeping a notebook filled with notes and drawings, sketches, painting of the little things they do notice, whatever (there is nos silly subject, even a mere stone can make for a great sketch/watercolor, one of the last ‘silly’ sketch I did was of small foot prints of pigeons made on a fresh slab of concrete).

Nature journaling will help them learn to look at the world around them, even in the most mundane places: go draw some vegetables from the fridge, or fruits or say an onion from the kitchen top. Flowers are also amazing subjects than can easily be found… everywhere. It will also help them appreciate the world, its richness and its endless variety (instead of being afraid of differences and be willing to get rid of them). Nature journaling can work great even with very young kids (old enough to know how to write/sketch): it doesn’t need to be a work of art (imho, it certainly doesn’t need to be, let them express themselves freely, just be there to encourage them not to judge, but that’s just my opinion).

There are quite a few great how-to books on the subject but if you want advice from someone I consider a master in the field, look no further than John Muir Laws YT channel, this is the intro episode to a series where he explains what it is and how to do it, but his channel is literally filled to the brim with amazing content (and sketches and notes), oftentimes hidden in his longer videos. Take some time to explore them. BTW, his books are much better and easier to navigate than any videos. They are among those rare books I would recommend to anyone wanting to get started or even to get better (a lot).

Here, a very short intro by someone else that tells you you don’t need to spend a lot of money to do nature journaling, which is true (some colors, a pen/pencil, a notebook): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-kVmzeeK0ZM.

In this one a mother is commenting on some pages made by her 7 year old son.

Encouraging kids to look around them and then to make something out of it, I can’t think of anything better to encourage them (and also have some great time ;))

A name is just a name to me.

But if I was to hire someone, I would not trust a person that so badly needs to identify to some fictional ‘super-hero’ that think they’re above the law and they can do what the funk they want or, as a reader myself, to anyone needing to identify to any famous fictional novel character either.

I do recognize a few names and avatars whose (nuanced and articulated) participation I appreciate… even if we don’t always agree.

But to be honest, most of the time I browse without much consideration for the name of who posted or commented, and it is only after I’ve read a fine post/comment that I will check the user name to see if I know them and if so, what I can recall of our previous exchanges.

The people that get to really irk me they quickly end up being blocked, so I very quickly completely forget about them.

– where you can be anonymous!

For now, at least. Legislation, and the legislators behind them, don’t seem to move in the right direction in regards of online ‘anonymity’.

As for the OP: I completely quit consulting any therapist the day I noticed them using connected apps/online services which happened to also be around the same time I first started hearing people wanting to get rid of confidentiality in the name of, your get it, protecting the children.

My therapist is now my personal journal. Well, technically, it has been my therapist for the last 4 or 5 decades but it is now the only therapist I feel like I can trust.

Sad times we’re living in.

:)

Fridge, Light bulbs, appliances, Doorbells. I don’t use any of those. I refuse to let any enter our home.

Books, the object, should not be smart either. The reader and the text itself should be the smartest parts in any book.

As for watches, I wear a mechanical watch and, no, it’s not even a fancy luxury item: it’s less expensive than any Apple Smart Watch by quite a margin, and I never considered purchasing a smart one. I see no use and only disadvantages in using a smart watch.

My good old mechanical watches (I own 2, one as a gift from my grandfather when I was 16 and I 'm now older than he was the day he gave it to me) do the job of telling me the time it is quite well. And they have been doing so for decades for the oldest one without ever needing an update or a new batty (just a few cleaning sessions). Nor did they suddenly became obsolete, requiring me to purchase a newer model to keep using a watch. They also do not track me and respect my privacy. And I don’t have to recharge them ever, one is self rewinding and the other I just need to spend 15 seconds or so to rewind its spring every morning, just before I strap it onto my wrist right after I shower and dress.

A 4 euros, je ne risque pas grand-chose, j’aime bien l’idée d’avoir un calendrier… Parce que à part connaître sur le bout des doigts, quand même, le nom des saisons mon niveau d’expertise jardinistique pourrait, aux yeux de certains esprits critiques, être considéré comme un tantinet insuffisant :p

Et sinon, un best seller philosophique est le “Petit traité du jardin punk”. C’est une manière différente de concevoir le jardin : moins de tracas, davantage de lâcher-prise.

Ah ben, bravo! Je ne te dis pas merci ! Ton commentaire (comme le titre) du livre me donnent envie d’y jeter un oeil… Pfff ;)

Bonne idée, je vais lui en parler, je pense pouvoir encore le croiser.

T’as la super revue “Les 4 saisons du jardin bio”

Je n’avais pas pensé à une revue, mais pourquoi pas. Je vais jeter un oeil.

C’est pas une mission kamikaze, mais le jardinage faut que ça reste un plaisir, et donc pas se stresser si ça marche pas tip top. De toute façon, comme pour beaucoup de chose, le secret c’est le temps qu’on a à y consacrer. Et puis ça vient avec le temps et l’expérience.

C’est exactement ce que je me dis et c’est aussi exactement ce que je ne veux pas que ça devienne: une source de stress :)

Un grand merci pour tes conseils, et pour tes en,couragements! Je vais voir ce que je peux faire avec le gars avant qu’il ne parte (mal barré) et voir ce que je peux trouver dans les environs, comme tu me le suggères. Je compte aussi ne pas “prendre possessions” du jardin à mon compte, je veux voir si et laisser de la place à d’autres bonnes volontés si elles se manifestent, pour répartir les tâches et le plaisir (car c’est forcément un plaisir d’arroser, n’est-ce pas?) entre nous.

Wow, merci :)

What do I find not fascinating would be a much quicker way to answer your question.

Does it matter? To me at least, yes. My curiosity and… that ability to be astonished/excited even by the most insignificant or mundane things, and a desire to welcome those things (and persons), I think is what made me the person I’m.

Curious to see if any of you use RSS and if so how do you use it?

I do use it. I think I use it like I always did: as a way to ‘aggregate’ multiple sources into a single rss reader which is Newsboat, in my case, a cli RSS reader (I do all my online activities on a computer, not on the phone).

I will often not bother reading a blog that doesn’t give me an RSS feed

+1, MASH has wonderful theme/song. It’s also a type of series we probably need to watch today more than ever.

You mentioning MASH made me think of another oddball movie: Kelly’s heroes, the 70s one with Sutherland/Eastwood and Savalas. As a young boy in the 70s, this was one of my favorite movies. It still holds a sweet spot in my heart now almost 60 ;)

• Space 1999
• The Persuaders
• The Avengers

And also, the French version of the Ulysses 31 anime. Well, from the album, the intro is probably the weakest part of what remains to this day one of the best anime OST. Even more so considering it was supposed to be a young kids TV anime. Link to full album <- this is not your usual anime for kids type of music :)

Not a TV show, but still best theme ever (and the best anime ever maybe too)? The original Ghost in the Shell.

And yes they’re all old stuff, like me. Sorry youngsters, you were left out of the loop ;)