Do you use the word “trans” when talking about nonbinary people?

  • daniskarma@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    1 hour ago

    Complex question.

    It’s really based on self identification. But most nb or fluid people I know, including myself, wont consider themselves trans. As most of the times there’s not that “transition”.

    But of course many other nb could identify as trans and feel like they are going or has gone through a transition.

  • DoubleDongle@lemmy.world
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    4 hours ago

    For the sake of clarity, it’s best to reserve the term “trans” for people who are interested in altering their body and/or dressing very differently from their birth gender. So for NBs, it’ll depend on your goals.

  • Alvaro@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    5 hours ago

    Technically, all non-cis are trans, but culturally I don’t think non-binary really fits, I think it is conceptually different frim what most people understand trans to mean.

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    10 hours ago

    Personally, as an enby, I don’t consider myself trans as such. I have never felt I’ve transitioned, just been whatever I came as. As in my physical and psychological reality matches my identity, though I admit I’m no expert here. My struggles are mostly paperwork, nothing more.

    But trans issues, politically, are almost 1:1 same, whatever the real overlap, so there’s no real meaning in the distinction. I don’t want to muddy the waters by claiming to be trans, but whatever I am or am not is neither here or there, when, whatever the answer might be, the issues are almost all shared either way.

    And the label doesn’t matter one way or the other. Whatever is most respectful to most everyone, is fine for me, and I don’t have strong feelings one way or the other. But fundamentally I have been blessed, deserved or not, with no need to ever really transition as such.

  • SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml
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    12 hours ago

    Nonbinary person here, and yes nb people are trans. You’re transitioning from one gender to another.

    Trying to assert otherwise, and playing semantic word games, especially when we’re all being so heavily targeted right now, is reckless and stupid. Whether an individual non-binary person feels a strong connection of the word transgender is their business, but we should all be banding together and meeting the fucking moment. Not atomizing ourselves further

      • SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml
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        3 hours ago

        You might not have medically transitioned, but surely you socially transitioned in some way. Changed your name and/or pronouns? Altered the way you dress, perhaps?

        • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          2 hours ago

          Framing it like that, what I did was more a case of reverting back to how I presented myself before I became aware of sex

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          6 hours ago

          Jeez, I got so lucky. After giving birth mine went back down to IBTC levels, I can’t imagine living with big 'uns :-/

          How is the flat chested life treating you?

          • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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            4 hours ago

            sometimes I wonder if I’ll miss them someday but then I saw an ad the other day for bras that was like our bras fit all shapes!

            • too small on top
            • too small on the bottom
            • too big on the sides
            • flat
            • pointy
            • Long
            • lumpy
            • point down
            • point up
            • point out
            • point in different directions

            and for only $80 per bra!

            I’m a little grateful they’re gone after seeing that.

            • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              3 hours ago

              Must suck to need special bras :-/ I think my budget is about 20€ per year for that.

              Mostly though, I was wondering if you fall over backwards due to unexpected weight distribution or anything.

              Also, are your nipples ok, sensation-wise?

              • Apytele@sh.itjust.works
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                3 hours ago

                worse oversensitivity actually I think I need to try the TENS on them and see what happens. I have a neuropathic toe I’ve been meaning to do too.

                • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                  2 hours ago

                  Oh no, my spouse has problems with oversensitive nipples and it’s frustrating for both of us … fingers crossed for some respite if the TENS thingy works for you

  • BougieBirdie@piefed.blahaj.zone
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    1 day ago

    Enby here: I’m neither a transman nor a transwoman, but trans issues affect me.

    “Trans” can be a pretty large umbrella. When you get into specifics, I’m not so sure that I’m trans. But I am part of the trans community. Not trans, but also trans. Schrodinger’s trans person.

    Consider someone who’s agender. They’d be non-binary, but they also aren’t transitioning to any gender. Ask the GOP which bathroom to use and you can watch their head explode.

    • SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      9 hours ago

      Yup, that describes me - AFAB, androgynous enough that when I stopped binary gender presentation I started getting kicked out if women’s toilets.

      I wouldn’t call myself trans because I’ve put in no effort (just stopped doing things), and to do so would feel like stolen valour.

      I do feel like in order to claim an identity one should either fit in that general area, or put in some effort towards it.

  • Aaron@lemmy.nz
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    13 hours ago

    In my experience, there can be very strong views on this question from people who identify as enby and/or trans. I always defer to what the enby person I am interacting with prefers identifies as, but know that what is good for the goose isn’t always good for the gander. I’d always suggest asking the person you’re referring to about how they personally identify, but I have had almost zero reason to ever ask. Pronouns are usually enough for day to day interactions and friends/family have always just volunteered without me asking (they’d give different responses to your question, by the way).

    Edit: suggested to me that “prefer” sounds suggestive. How someone identifies isn’t a preference but a fact. Crossed out in original to show what changed, and I was assured it’s nitpicky but nice to not use prefer 😊

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
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    19 hours ago

    Yes but this is where certain qualifiers come in. I’ve known nonbinary people for whom all it is is a personal identity. When I talk about trans issues they’re rarely a part of it, because those issues rarely impact them. Inversely I’ve known nonbinary people who’ve had to grapple with getting legal recognition, getting access to surgery and hormones, and all that other stuff. Of course they’re included when I talk about trans issues. At the end of the day, both and everything in between falls under the umbrella, but not all discussions about the umbrella are about everyone under it, and it’s not always worth creating words for different subcategories.

  • SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca
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    23 hours ago

    The definition of transgender is anyone who identifies with a gender other than the one they were assigned at birth. It is therefore an umbrella term that includes nonbinary genders. Being transgender and transitioning are separate things.

    That being said, when people are talking about “trans people” they often mean binary trans people (ie men and women), especially in the current political context.

    It’s also not unheard of for some nonbinary people to be uncomfortable with calling themselves trans, presumably for the associations with binary trans people.

    Edit: i should clarify, by this I mean transgender definitionally in the abstract. When talking about a specific person’s identity, it just comes down how they identify. If an enby doesn’t identify as trans for any reason, don’t call them trans.

  • inb4_FoundTheVegan@lemmy.world
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    1 day ago

    That is decided by each individual non binary person. If they say their trans, that’s valid. If they say they aren’t, also valid. Trans is an intentionally broad community, but never one that requires membership.

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      9 hours ago

      Technically, identifying as a different gender from AGAB is the most widely accepted definition of transgender, and almost nobody was assigned non-binary at birth or never had their gender assessed before becoming sufficiently self-aware so just about all enbys are trans. However, AGAB is sensitive info and trans people can choose to not be “proudly trans” and this should extend to enbys. Especially since they might not share many typical characteristics of trans people, such as dysphoria or trying to pass. I like how @SincerityIsCool@lemmy.ca described it.

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    1 day ago

    idk about trans, but they are gender nonconforming and part of GSM (gender and sexuality minorities).

  • TheMuffinMan@piefed.world
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    Trans man here, IMHO being nonbinary can be paired with being trans, but not necessarily, i.e. they are not inherently the same thing.

    If they have dysphoria and want to transition to alleviate it (irrespective of whether they can), then yes, they are trans.

    If the extent of a nonbinary person’s journey is to go by they/them, or they/them + the pronouns associated with their AGAB, then I would not categorise them as trans. To be clear, I am not saying that this is not a valid stance - just that the experience is not the same as being trans, though there may be some overlap.

    Obviously you cannot work this out without intimately knowing the person, and it isn’t really anyone else’s business anyway, but to answer the question explicitly, I would refer to them as a nonbinary person (in the absence of further information, and where the ‘nonbinary’ descriptor is relevant otherwise I would just say ‘person’), not a trans person.

    • Echo (they/them)@lemmy.world
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      14 hours ago

      I am definitely both - transfemme nonbinary person here. While I am transitioning to alleviate my immense dysphoria, I am still most comfortable with they/them pronouns - though will accept she/her if binary terms must be used.

      I don’t feel like a binary trans girl but I need to be as far away from being seen as a boy as possible. Which oddly leaves me desperate to be seen as a girl, because it’s the least incorrect of the two socially standard genders.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zone
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      1 day ago

      Disclaimer: I do not speak for other nonbinary people. The below is my personal opinion towards myself and does not extend to others.

      This is the view I hold as well, about myself. I don’t have dysphoria regarding aspects of my body, so I don’t categorise myself as a trans person. I’m nonbinary, that’s the term that resonates with me most clearly. I do not wish my body reflected my inner understanding of myself, because my body doesn’t matter to me in that respect.

      Idc what other people categorise themselves as; that’s a personal, intimate, and inner journey we all walk when queer and I respect them and their wishes.

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    Only if they consider themselves trans.

    I’m nonbinary and not trans! People have tried to declare to me that nonbinary people are inherently trans. No. I will bite them. :V

    – Frost