nah you’re good, and also good on you for sticking up for yourself and saying no! I’m sure many men do legitimately just need help, but it’s a scary world out there for women and enbies.
I…am not sure I’d even say “to an extent” for enbies. While the trans men I’ve interacted with have been lackluster in wielding the privilege they gain for good, the afab enbies celebrate each piece of privilege because they are few and far between, if they are extant in the first place. I am ignorant if the statistics are granular enough to tell us this info, but after Nex, I feel it is fair to say many enbies experience harassment on the same scale and pervasiveness as trans women.
Hell, some of the trans women I know are enbiephobic, so I feel like in some what it’s our job to support enbies, because it’s starting to look like “first they came for the enbies, and I said nothing, because I am not an enbie”.
I genuinely prefer enbies as queer allies out of everyone else, but I feel like that’s an attitude you’ll get generally only from younger trans women. I guess I’m just saying while if someone like me is hurt I am deeply saddened for the loss of someone I extend my love to, but when an enbie is hurt it means (at least to me) someone who I could talk to with zero mask. I really hope I’m not saying anything shitty, to either group, cuz I have identified with being nonbinary in several ways over the years so maybe that would explain my feelings of companionship
Also thank you for the support in keeping myself safe 💜
I…am not sure I’d even say “to an extent” for enbies.
y’know what, you’re right. I think I have a tendency to downplay prejudice against myself, and by extension people like me, and that’s really not the right way to look at things, and I certainly shouldn’t try to speak for all nonbinary people. thank you for your perspective, Gaia.
nah you’re good, and also good on you for sticking up for yourself and saying no! I’m sure many men do legitimately just need help, but it’s a scary world out there for women and enbies.
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removed “to an extent” after “and enbies”.
I…am not sure I’d even say “to an extent” for enbies. While the trans men I’ve interacted with have been lackluster in wielding the privilege they gain for good, the afab enbies celebrate each piece of privilege because they are few and far between, if they are extant in the first place. I am ignorant if the statistics are granular enough to tell us this info, but after Nex, I feel it is fair to say many enbies experience harassment on the same scale and pervasiveness as trans women.
Hell, some of the trans women I know are enbiephobic, so I feel like in some what it’s our job to support enbies, because it’s starting to look like “first they came for the enbies, and I said nothing, because I am not an enbie”.
I genuinely prefer enbies as queer allies out of everyone else, but I feel like that’s an attitude you’ll get generally only from younger trans women. I guess I’m just saying while if someone like me is hurt I am deeply saddened for the loss of someone I extend my love to, but when an enbie is hurt it means (at least to me) someone who I could talk to with zero mask. I really hope I’m not saying anything shitty, to either group, cuz I have identified with being nonbinary in several ways over the years so maybe that would explain my feelings of companionship
Also thank you for the support in keeping myself safe 💜
y’know what, you’re right. I think I have a tendency to downplay prejudice against myself, and by extension people like me, and that’s really not the right way to look at things, and I certainly shouldn’t try to speak for all nonbinary people. thank you for your perspective, Gaia.