• scops@reddthat.com
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      7 days ago

      I’ve never been a big fan of Tinder. It’s too hard to figure out who is a real person with the minimal profile info provided. I think you’re generally better off with an app that requires(or at least allows) more effort to create a profile, and/or something a bit more focused than just hookups.

      OKCupid and Feeld are the apps that work best for me. Feeld is more for kinky and/or poly people, so it narrows down the playing field a lot. I think that makes things way easier. Of my current partners, one was on OKC and the other was on Feeld.

      • BarrelAgedBoredom@lemm.ee
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        Feeld is full of late 40s-50s cucks, swingers and unicorn hunters in my neck of the woods :/ that would be fine if that’s what I was looking for but Im not. Even the “no couples” filter doesn’t stop them. They just make a single account and put that they’re a couple in the description. The only attention I’ve gotten on feeld was from DL older men that want to cheat on their wives and middle aged couples looking for a younger “bull”. Like damn, I just wanna cuddle and go on fun dates, whys it gotta be all about the most smarmy, objectifying and maladapted forms of sex over here???

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      7 days ago

      I’m not on tinder, so I can’t match you. But I replied to your message! #solidarity

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      I’ve not used tinder, but I’ve heard good results from people consulting the tinder sub for help with their profile. Also, your first message is pretty important. I’m probably not telling you anything new, but “hey” is only going to get you a response if you’re a Hemsworth brother.

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        7 days ago

        Ask a question that indicates you actually read their profile, and not just, “So you like walking on the beach, huh?”

        Instead, “What beaches are you hitting? Ever been to Gulf Island National Seashore in Gulf Breeze? There are also a few miles of trails on the other side of the highway!”

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          Hi! I think you might’ve replied to the wrong person. It’s good advice, but I’m not on tinder. I’m in a monogamous long term relationship, so that advice might be more useful for the commenter above me than for me.

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            6 days ago

            I read the comment above as “yes and;” i.e., adding their thought to yours rather than replying directly. But also, mazel tov <3

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              Yea, valid and possible, just didn’t want their good advice buried an extra comment deep if not intentional. Thanks! Hope everyone can be so lucky!