For the record I was posting in support of inclusive language, but pointing out that context and convention matter.
They seem to have even scrubbed my comment from their instance, lol.
As a SoCal boi dude is not about gender. It’s a vibe
Wow, somebody that day was salty, and pretty much just looking for a comment to get mad about.
There’s another FOSS project idea: a bot that detects Lemmy bans and sends you a notification about it.
Another idea, take the mod log and allow voting on mod actions in a way that makes unpopular ones more visible. Give the users tools to evaluate moderators and admins to speed up the process of removing bad mods or users discovering they shouldn’t bother with an instance with bad admins. Or, with a different sorting method, it could highlight mods that aren’t power tripping losers.
Maybe a similar system for reporting, since it wouldn’t surprise me if some mods feel like they need to act because of pressure from losers who power trip with the report button. You know, the kind that feels the need to inform people they’ve been reported.
well you could just make a lemmy community about spurious bans and people could vote on it, and you could tag them in the comments somewhere….
suggested name: Cheka
I love it.
Cheka: Cheka if you’re banned or your content is removed.
rings well but also had a historical meaning the fucks: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cheka
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That’s when you start using “Greetings, human beings”
And then your computer starts making angry co-pilot noises
Hey volks.
Greetings loved ones, let’s take a journey
I got banned from lemmy.world/c/linuxsucks, which is one person’s mental illness, so who cares? Doesn’t stop me from calling them an idiot when they show up elsewhere.
I’m gen x dude also has no gender.
i kinda agree but does “i fuck dudes” sound right?
It depends on the context. The term has generally become more generic, but some contexts can put it back to its original gendered meaning.
Its your choice.
dude is masculine in every definition i’ve found (looked it up) except for a city slicker new to a ranch…
i’ve always known it to be gender neutral… but i have a female friend that gets offended every time someone calls her that.
but the fact that it keeps happening means that it’s gender neutral to all of those people too (she’s a fairly feminine female).
that said, it’s best to just call people terms that they are comfortable with, not ones that you’re comfortable calling them.
personally, i find calling a single person they/them a little obtuse, but it’s not really that hard. (slightly confusing when there’s a question of whether im referring to them or a group of people).Except when it comes to cultural/generational uses of words. Every generation has words they use in a altered way. Dude was one such word when I was young. It was used by my generation in a way that didn’t exactly match the definition. Just like all the other generations use words out context with their written definitions. Its why I laugh when the younger generations get mad because they think they invented the concept.
yeah, it’s almost as if language is an evolving thing….
but fuck that noise, i only accept definitions from the 1876 edition of Merrium-Webster… all other usages are wrong.
(i do seriously had when the nounify a verb like “cringe” or making “sus” mean anything at all bad…
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How do you check your name in the mod log? I feel as though I’ve been pretty chill but I’m curious to see if I’ve stepped on anyone’s toes.
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Ah, I remember that comment.
Thank you for saving me the trouble.
If you find out let me know too please.
You can scroll down and you would see modlog inside it you can search by user
@recklessengagement@lemmy.world if you go to the bottom of the page on the default web frontend, there’s a link to the modlog and you can search your username.
I have no idea how well federation of modlogs works exactly, though. I usually check on ml to see if I’ve been banned again on ml (you don’t have to be logged in).
I’m apparently banned from some vegan community because I argued against them when they said they’re more oppressed than black people in America 😂🤣😂🤣
who cares. some of these communities are trash who don’t allow you to participate if you don’t align with their views. no different than reddit.
OP’s complaint is that he was not aware of the ban so he was commenting into nothing.
This is really software issue, they can ban him, and he can block them back. No problem at all.
The issue is that these servers are blocking new people and they might get pissed about not knowing it. This is UX issue for fediverse.
On top of it, these bans are arbitrary and capricious for the most part, so again, this will piss anyone who does know how fediverse works.
We got 50k AMU, with too many mods with nothing to do, so they find busy work.
fair but I’ve been banned because I didn’t follow the flow of the political narrative of the conversation. I don’t consider myself squarely in one camp so I read, understand, and comment/criticize what I feel I want to engage with. I will admit i was auto banned from one instance and got no response from anyone, so I can relate to what your comment is getting at.
I didn’t follow the flow of the political narrative of the conversation.
There is a lot of censorship on lemmy both personal bias and outright regime narrative support.
That’s a huge issue, no doubt.
Bro
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Is there a way to ban users before they comment/post?
Preemptive banning of trolls is something Lemmy could use. I shouldn’t have to wait until they post.
Same, was banned for totally trivial reasons like being racist or something like that.
Seriously? The word dudette exists for a reason, use it.
This one is for the individual who reported my content.
Depending on what you were replying to, I could see how that is transphobic. Like if you were replying to someone saying they don’t like to be called dude and you end the post with “get over it, dude!”?
You said it yourself. Context matters.
For what it’s worth, I’ve met trans women who dislike the term dude. It might be more common than you think.
Also, after thinking on this more, I feel more confident it has to do with the hypothetical “if you’re offended [by me calling you dude], get over it dude” as doubling down on using a term someone doesn’t want you to as soon as they’ve told you not to.
I could see how that is transphobic.
modding based on vibes
It usually is. If you don’t get paid, a bit of arbitrary power is kind of expected.
modding based on contex, don’t be silly.
OP stated what his intention and meaning here was but we got half a comment section int his thread trying prove that he meant something else.
Very paternalistic behavior:
- removing OP’s agency then
- imposing punitive measure
- gas lighting “we told you what you meant, stfu!”
Microcosm of the modding around much of Lemmy really. People with poor reading comprehension or outright bad faith actors?
babe the person you replied to stated that the context of the initial post matters.
no matter the intention, it’s important to consider what the actual impact of the post could’ve been. you just took the piss. my replies to you are reiterating that the context DOES matter, and isn’t just “vibes”.
The context here is that OP was posting on lemmy.world when got accosted by some random person about usage of word “dude” being transphobic, which is not true.
no matter the intention
ohh really intent don’t matter no more?
what sort of clown position is this? accusing people of “crimes” and it does not matter if they even meant to commit the crime?
it’s important to consider what the actual impact of the post could’ve been
If you are going to harass people online about their choice of words, they will clap back. This is internet 101.
they clearly weren’t banned for an intent that they only expressed in the post complaining about being banned. i hope you’re being willfully dense, because i can’t help you if you GENUINELY think this bullshit.
yes i genuinely think that this modding is grade A clown behavior lol
the solution is to block the instance, that’s the lesson here.
overzealous modding will eventually isolate instances with overzealous modding into echo chambers.
but we need these discussions so that general public is educated on these issues.
cheers!
