• @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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    11 year ago

    This assumes women on average are as interest in “just sex” as men are. I don’t care for men thinking my body is just good enough for sex.

    • @Syrc@lemmy.world
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      61 year ago

      I mean, in a relationship, what else do you need a body for? The main thing that keeps two people interested in each other is the personality, as long as the bodies are “good enough” to sexually stimulate your partner there’s not much more they’re needed for. Hell, for some that isn’t even a requirement.

      • @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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        -31 year ago

        But it doesn’t make sense to complain about women supposedly having higher standards when men and women seem to have, on average, different expectations towards a relationship? I would rather be alone than being with a person who just finds my body good enough. For many men this seems to be different.

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          1 year ago

          I always thought the “different expectations” prejudice about relationships was more about average men wanting a “body to fuck” that’s also a pleasant person and average women wanting a pleasant person that’s also a “body to fuck” (you know, the old adage about push-up bras and lies).

          I don’t know if it’s also about how much is your body attractive to your partner, to me it seems like an unnecessary requirement and kind of “objectifying yourself”. Like, if a person is in love with your personality and finds your body simply “attractive”, is that not good enough for a relationship to you? That situation is like hitting a jackpot for most men I know.

          • @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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            41 year ago

            It is objectifying towards yourself. And it stems from the fact that in media and our society in general women are valued by their looks. There are very few examples for likeable female characters, for example, who aren’t also beautiful and young. It’s a complex issues and that’s why it is especially questionable to produce such a meme.

            • @Syrc@lemmy.world
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              11 year ago

              It is objectifying towards yourself.

              Then why would you do that? If you recognize it’s not right to expect that, why would you specifically want a partner that absolutely loves your body?

              There are very few examples for likeable female characters, for example, who aren’t also beautiful and young.

              Because, as we’ve been saying, most characters (whether males or females) in fiction are beautiful. There’s also very few examples of likeable male characters that aren’t also beautiful.

              You might have a point with the age but I’d attribute that to historical Hollywood stars being mostly male, as more popular actresses get old we’ll definitely see more likeable old women.

              • @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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                71 year ago

                You would do that because that’s how you are socialised as a woman growing up. Your value is your youth and how beautiful you are. That’s it.

                It is not easy to just rid yourself from socialising. As a man this can be hard to get when it’s about beauty standards because beauty standards imposed onto men are not even close as restrictive as those imposed onto women.

                There are many examples for unattractive, funny looking, old, chubby, etc. male characters in media. For female characters that’s the exception.

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                  I don’t know, I really don’t get the reasoning. I can understand being conditioned so that your subconscious gives a higher importance to your body than what it should be, and that can be hard to completely get rid of, but you consciously typed “I would rather be alone than being with a person who just finds my body good enough”. That doesn’t seem like something egodystonic you’re actively trying to fight.

                  And as for representation in media, are all those funny looking/chubby characters actual, three-dimensional characters or are they just the comic relief whose main point of their personality is “he’s a nerd/fat/ugly”? Because for fat kids that’s exactly the opposite of body positivity, and the only reason why there’s so many males and little females in that trope is because making fun of a woman for her appearance is generally something frowned upon (meanwhile for men it’s totally ok, at least until recently)

                  • @ParsnipWitch@feddit.de
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                    11 year ago

                    Why would I fight it though? I don’t see it as a necessity to have a romantic relationship with someone.

                    There are plenty of examples where the male character is not attractive and is also not made fun of.