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Yes you did the right thing, you are not responsible. Your brother is and maybe other circonstances in her life.

The real family is the people you choose to have in your life. Take care of yourself

No, thanks 😊

Thank you, I will try to remember that ongoing aspect 🙏

Thank you 🙏

Quick question from a non native English speaker: shouldn’t the the text “I didn’t even know what I am until a few weeks ago” be “I didn’t even knew what I was until a few weeks ago”? I sound really weird to me as it is. I may be missing something but it feels like the event is in the past with “until a few weeks ago”. Again, not a native speaker so I’m only trying to understand the language better. Thanks!

I don’t like them, it feels like a cheap emotional manipulation in a way. I understand that you would like to share these here, especially if this happened to someone you knew or near you. I’m not blaming everyone who shared these or say they have bad intention. It just doesn’t add anything to the table IMO.

We all know the danger that they represent, no need to make everyone even more anxious about cycling and other alternative ways to travel.

I really wondered if I should block this community because of that.

Bright yellow “J” on white background was certainly a choice…

Good one with pictures and AI! I haven’t thought of that at all.

You might be right, but it would be hard to publish a book with this concept and not create at least a small controversy. But that may be the point of Art in a way? Shake things up and create dialog? But it would almost seems tame compared to what is happening in the real world IDK 😐

Oh yeah you’re right, it feels extremely racist now to only target black people, not that it wasn’t about race before 😅

Is it like everyone turned white or every non white person has disappeared? The first one is the most “fun” to imagine, as in the other case, we lost a lot of people and that’s very sad…

You can imagine people of color experiencing strong body disphoria at first.

Maybe grouping by ex color vs always white, and people pretending to be from one group or the other since their will be no way to discern.

Maybe language, accents and dialect can be used to try to flag people (for those who cares of course).

Maybe hair color would be another way to discriminate people, before eyes color. Height? Tattoo? We would always find ways unfortunately…

Other impact might be mass migration as white skin is not adapted to sunny weather. Lots of sunburn…

Cults created around this event (the Whitening), some see it as good, other as a tragedy. Whatever happened was unexplainable and baffles scientist around the world. Maybe a belief that another wave of color change will happen in the future.

Support group for people who lost their color.

The immense celebrity of the first new baby of color that will be born, maybe making color a very precious attributes.

You could write so many scenario in this world, but it would be pretty heavy handed as literature 😅

It’s not news but I approve of the message. Add other trash like WSJ

With all the oil burning from both the Iran war and Russian invasion, I doubt that optimism, but it just a gut feeling seeing these videos of huge flames and smokes. I hope they are right 🤞

Depending on your situation what I’m about to tell you might not work, but it worked for me.

If you spend a lot of time in your thoughts thinking about the future in bas or catastrophic (involuntarily for the most part), this tip helped me a lot. It use the analogy of the cinema. When you are watching a movie at the cinema you can be fully immersed in the stories and the emotions of the characters. But, if there is people chatting, eating popcorn, or if you focus on the real actor name, the real place this is filmed, a continuity error (channel your inner annoying Cinema Sins), etc. you are no more “in” the movie. The projection and scenario you making when imagining the future in a bad way, are well, you imagination. You are in a way the projector and the spectator in this imaginary cinema. You can make the scenario worse of you want or better. Try it with what’s on you mind right now and causing anxiety. You are in control of this mental projector, it’s not premonition (even if it feel like it). And like a cinema, you can nitpick at the artifice of these vision and escape the emotional rollercoaster they can bring. You are not in this imaginary future right now. You are right now and the rest is fabrication of your own mind. I don’t know if it will help you like it did me, but it helped me detect that I was in my mental cinema and stop the projector. It’s not fail proof, but it help get some respite.

Grounding exercises, anything that promote attention is good. The classics are breathing exercises, body scan and 54321. But overall any meditation is good as meditation is an exercise about focusing you attention on some physical sensation of you body. As long as attention is activated (and it is hard and require training and regularity to get good at) your default mode network is not. And the default mode network is where, among many other things of course, your prediction about the future happen.

Good sleep hygiene helps a lot. Regular exercise help a lot. Meeting people in real life can help (but social anxiety can be a hard step to take sometimes).

If things are really too hard, and they absolutely can be unfortunately, you can always seek a professional and get drugs like alprazolam. They can be a game changer but you have to be careful about them.

If a doctor is out of reach because you live in a country like the USA, but I would be very careful about this, one magic mushrooms session kills anxiety for months. Can also trigger schizophrenia if you are at risk (check you family history but they will always be a risk). Risk/rewards, inform yourself before any drugs.

Good luck, be nice to yourself and have a nice day 😊

You are right, I agree with the results but there is also nuance.

From an anecdotal perspective, I have first hand felt the benefits of exercise on my anxiety. Yes it works. However, from this same perspective (and also my mental professional and research), exercise, especially cardio or high intensive training put your body in the same state of a panic attack. Elevated pulse, sweat, rapid breathing, etc. This in turn can be very taxing on your motivation to continue doing so if you have anxiety. I don’t say that to say “lazy” but you brain will simply not rewards you for what you are doing.

Also, the physical strain on the body afterwards, combined with the experience of the effort itself can (and it was the case for me) spike you anxiety levels higher than they were before doing the regular exercise.

Of course, these effects will correct themselves with time for most people and regular exercise will for most people help them manage their anxiety.

Please, be kind to people, I understand the frustrations when people seems to resist this seemingly easy solution. Of course they are people wear a mental illness like a badge of honor, but they are also people with commorbidity (depression, PTSD, social anxiety, obesity, physical handicap, etc.) which make these first step and their challenge even harder.

It’s extremely hard to put yourself in very uncomfortable situation, make an effort, get bad outcome and doing it again, for weeks, fighting your own brain chemistry, pain, your powerful emotions (fear, shame, sadness, etc.) to finally get results.

I’m not saying it’s not working, I’m not saying to give up, I’m only asking for empathy. Shaming people who are already suffering will not help. And, for a portion of the population, this will not work unfortunately. I’m not speaking about me. It’s my current challenge to get back to the gym, I have experienced the benefits of it so I know it’s good for me, but life is hard right now and I’m doing my best.

I hope you get my message, I’m not trying to scold you or anything. You are right about the message and I’m sure it comes from a good place of trying to help people. No doubt in my mind. But please, if you care, be also nice about the people who might resist it. Maybe they tried and failed, maybe they can’t right now or never. These people also exist, it is not only people that want to feel special.

Have a great day 😊

Literally this

Maybe try to avoid this defeatist way of thinking? It hard, sure, not trying to downplay the harsh reality of dating, but giving up will not help you find a partner.

It’s like giving up on life because you can accidentally die tomorrow.

At least, meet new people, not trying to date anyone and maybe make friends. Maybe and maybe with some time, one of this new friend will become a lover? Worst case scenario you got more friends. Maybe they have friends themselves and you can meet new people?

Forget about loyalty, peacefulness, kindness or handsomeness like they are traits in a video game. A mid girl can become you crush by the way they talk to you about their experience of something you share. Try to be the best human being you can become. It’s a lifelong journey. Meet people to expand your perspective. Try sometime to get out of your comfort zone. But also be kind to yourself, allow time to heal from pain and hardship. Allow yourself to cry, it “reset” your nervous system and process an emotional event.

As for your awful experience of racism, I’m sorry you had to go though that. But don’t forget that you dodge a massive bullet. How would you have like living with someone who devalue you for your skin color?

Sorry if I sound preachy, I hope you get my message and good intentions. A friend of mine followed for most of his life this “love is not for me” mentality and now regret this choice and is trying his best to live his life fully.

In the end, it’s your choice, feel free to ignore everything I just said off course. Whatever your choices, good luck, I wish you the best 🫶

He looks more like a man than me 😭

These haters are crazy…

That must be a joke

I’m going to go against the grain of everyone here and told you to be careful with these kind of investment. Sorry if it’s condescending, it’s not my intention, there is just so many sad story of young people loosing it all trying to get rich quick, it’s very sad.

Stock and ETF can make you loose your savings. They are taxed. The market are lopsided towards AI and is more and more volatile. Do not place all your savings on a single ETF or anything like that. Market ETF can help with diversifying without too much risk, but risk is a fundamental components of this world.

Before placing this money in any of that, please take the time and energy to understand. If you want to take a shortcut, use an LLM. Explain you situation like you did and ask how you should use your money. Understand finance and the markets, not just definition but how they work too, what are the risks, etc. What options are realistic with you salary and current saving ? If you want a fun side to start getting into finance, check Atrioc on YouTube, if you want a more grounded side, check Patrick Boyle, or The Plain Bagel. From these recommandations, you will find many other good source and avoid scammers. Be careful, there is always a phase when you learn about something where you feel very confident in your understanding, especially in the beginning. Remember that you are not a financial experts (and I’m not either).

Here are some tips, based on my experience in France, which could be completely different that Italy, even though we are neighbors and in the EU. Maybe, like in France, you could create a “life assurance” (“assurance vie”) that is partially secured or assured (if they exist and work like in France). Also, if you are young, maybe there are saving accounts made for young people that are safe and good return (again, it exists in France, maybe you have something similar?)? These special saving accounts are not usually crazy but they fight the inflation and you cannot loose you money. Once you have something like six months of salary saved in one of these for emergency, then you can look for other placement. Again, if you have something equivalent to a life assurance in France, this is you best bet. Usually, you can split your portfolio between very safe placement (usually it’s bonds) and more risky one. The idea is to have a more risky profile in the beginning and slowly move towards a safer profile as you get closer to your retirement. With those, the worst that can happen, and it can happen of course, is that it gets you 0% months after months. Realistically, it more likely to get bad by not beating the inflation. But experts traders at the bank will choose how to use you money and they should be better than that. Of course, it is a service and it will cost money that will eat at your gain, so be careful about that (and tax maybe?). Choose a bank that have good return (but remember that it does not guaranty they will stay at the advertised level) and fee that are acceptable. Also your profit are compounded. So it’s not like betting on a stock for years and loosing all because you didn’t sell before a crash. And the banks money should be assured (up to 100000€ in France) so even if there is a crash you can’t loose your savings. This should be your retirement fund and the bulk of your savings.

If after that, you still have money this you can spare and you are willing to loose it all, again, start by understanding the finance world. Avoid Options or similar, as you can loose exponentially more than you placed. Leave that to the expert and the degenerate gamblers. This is what fuel Walt Street Bet stories. Don’t be like that. Don’t loan money to use in the market or really understand what is a margin call. Learn to accept the FOMO and keep your greed in check. Don’t get swallowed by the hypes and the exceptional winner : they are the outlier. Most people and traders do not beat the market. Yes, you could be lucky but this is gambling at this point. Ideally you are looking to beat inflation and maybe have a little margin. It will not make you a millionaire. Check what happened with Game stop and the apes. Look at what happening in Korea and the ants. Learn from their mistakes.

I wish I could give you more information, but honestly I’m not an expert at all, and even expert can fuck up.

Sorry to rain on your parade, but staying grounded and realistic with you money will avoid ruining you for a stupid mistake or hubris. I understand the attractiveness of this world especially if you feel stuck and life is hard. There are so many people trying to scam you or that are just confidently giving shit advice (ex. “Infinite money glitch” of writing fake check, which is fraud…). You hear stories of people becoming millionaire overnight.

And be skeptical of what I said (maybe I wrong or missing something important) or anyone tell you. Do your research! Good luck and take care