Ah, yes, “your attitude now is bad so clearly your attitude was always bad and that’s why you’re alone”. Naw, I used to have a better attitude, as I said in my original comment, and having a good attitude didn’t help one bit (which was the point of my original comment). And trying to pretend it does, doesn’t help anyone – I could have the sunniest disposition in the world, but that doesn’t change shit about the world around me – being an optimist doesn’t help you if, say, the house is on fire. And the world around me wants very little to do with me romantically, and pretty much always has. I can either accept that, or I can live in denial of it, but neither changes it.
Right. You worked for something maybe seriously for a decade, it didn’t work out, but you might live for another 60 years. Hey if you want to sacrifice the future based on the past that’s okay, but the reality is we have no idea what’s going to happen. In many countries, there are expressions that essentially state that men don’t even start looking attractive until they hit their 30s. And I know dozens of men who got married in their thirties or forties or fifties. Of course you don’t have to get married, that’s cool too, but let’s not pretend that it’s totally impossible just because it didn’t work out for you so far.
Ah, yes, “your attitude now is bad so clearly your attitude was always bad and that’s why you’re alone”. Naw, I used to have a better attitude, as I said in my original comment, and having a good attitude didn’t help one bit (which was the point of my original comment). And trying to pretend it does, doesn’t help anyone – I could have the sunniest disposition in the world, but that doesn’t change shit about the world around me – being an optimist doesn’t help you if, say, the house is on fire. And the world around me wants very little to do with me romantically, and pretty much always has. I can either accept that, or I can live in denial of it, but neither changes it.
Right. You worked for something maybe seriously for a decade, it didn’t work out, but you might live for another 60 years. Hey if you want to sacrifice the future based on the past that’s okay, but the reality is we have no idea what’s going to happen. In many countries, there are expressions that essentially state that men don’t even start looking attractive until they hit their 30s. And I know dozens of men who got married in their thirties or forties or fifties. Of course you don’t have to get married, that’s cool too, but let’s not pretend that it’s totally impossible just because it didn’t work out for you so far.