• 240p [he/him]@hexbear.net
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    9 months ago

    You basically have to brute force dating apps just to get to the conversation stage - that’s what I did with Tinder, Bumble, Grindr etc. Exhaust your “likes” for the day and if you get a match see how the convo goes. Granted this isn’t ideal the cooldown time is so annoying and you might find yourself matched with someone you’re not instantly into, but imo attraction to a person is so much more than a few pictures and a bio so I’ll always try to find out more about the person to see if we click. It’s hard out there though regardless, somehow through pure dumb luck I found my girlfriend on Grindr of all places and haven’t looked back - the odds must be astronomical…

    • SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      9 months ago

      pure dumb luck I found my girlfriend on Grindr of all places and haven’t looked back

      have they expanded into being het trans/enby-inclusive? i never tried grindr because i assumed it was still just the gay hookup app

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        9 months ago

        Yeah there’s a good range of ways to describe your gender identity on it including non binary terms. It is still very hook up oriented (be prepared for unsolicited dick pics) but you can at least use tags to make it very clear what you’re looking for, be it a more serious romantic relationship or even just looking for friends to chat with.

        • SoylentSnake [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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          9 months ago

          hm very interesting…im masc enby but am regrettably het so i feel like still not the target audience on grindr unless it’s changed a crazy amnt. (if i were bi i’d prob pull infinitely more on the apps ngl ngl)