30 something woman here, apparently I masturbate a lot compared to my friends.
I have to say “yeah once a week too” when they raise the subject ,when in fact it is multiple times a day. Husband would also do 2 times a day if he kept to his “normal” cadence. I know “whatever works for me” is right, but I’d like to compare to other people my age that aren’t my friends.
I think everything is normal that is natural for you and isn’t disruptive.
Sorry for the Reddit link, and I don’t know your age, but you may find this discussion in the psychologyofsex sub interesting.
‘Normal’ is a very wide range.
That is really interesting, thank you. I think I may be an outlier, it definitely hasn’t really increased for me since I started and so far has not decreased in my early 30s
Some people in that thread said the same. Like I said, everything is normal. There’s a huge range, from a few times a day to a couple of times a year. Just don’t judge yourself against others, and especially wth something as personal as this. I think your 2-3 times per day is perfectly fine. /hugs
I guess in reality I am more interested in what other people’s cadence is than concerned about my own, but that is just my ever present voyeuristic tendency. It is good to know that I am fairly “normal” if that is even a thing. Thank you for taking the time to reply.
If you just randomly wanted to know everyone, I’m also an outlier from the opposite pole of the spectrum lol.
For my it’s maybe several times a year when I get curious enough to try. Never has worked out tho. I always compare it to that to me it probably feels like what touching your elbow is like. It just feels like my body and nothing “good” or interesting happens when I try. It’s like someone forgot to hook up my wiring or something. Always been this way.
Interesting. If you don’t mind me asking, do you get mentally excited? Do you feel physically attracted to people? An urge to do something?
Only on very very very rare occasions. Typically from watching sex scenes on TV and in movies. And I only very rarely watch shows with sex scenes anyway (not because I’m trying to avoid them…just because they don’t tend to show up in most media I consume). Tried porn but it doesn’t do it for me. When I’ve tried to do something about the feeling to see where it takes me, it unfortunately has just never led anywhere. I don’t generally view people that way outsode of TV/film. I guess my brain doesn’t spontaneously come up with themes like that outside of TV and film. I’ve always been curious to see how MDMA might affect someone like me.
Like others have said, normal is a very broad range and there’s nothing wrong with being an outlier at either end.
If you’re talking about the average or medium cadence, then your frequency is above average.
I’m kinda envious of you having so much time to yourself.
Haha! well I’ve always been able to achieve a satisfying outcome pretty quickly. Again compared to my friends, I am much faster, though porn helps a lot. I work from home and the time between meetings seems to be ideal.