god i wish i knew. teaching them empathy and compassion would be a good start. it would be especially effective if that came from adult men they respect, given the misogyny might obstruct them receiving that lesson from women. helping them to understand and express their emotions in a healthy way would also help. i was socialized as a boy and the only emotions i was allowed to express were anger and happiness but not too strongly or too often. i suppose im saying the fault lies with adult men ultimately. what else is new…