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No need to be sorry about that, nobody expects you to advertise that information, lol

And sorry for the mistake - your comment has been restored.

honestly sounds similar to the way the Christian right responds to something like the gay rights movement - every advancement of gay rights is perceived as an infringement on their religious freedom somehow.

is there a way to de-paywall 404media.co?

Thank you for your contribution, but unfortunately this community has a rule that only women are permitted to comment. Hope you understand! 💙

I get that, I feel the same way and I do think it’s worth considering how our actions as individuals intersect with the social and structural.

Also, I don’t think it’s that terrible to try to go against the grain of society to be a good person, but I think sometimes we just use things like this to beat ourselves up even though it’s not that big of a deal …

Like, when I first transitioned, I had so much cognitive dissonance about using makeup to feminize - I felt like I was betraying my feminist values. Now I realize I was just being femmephobic, not feminist.

The idea that you feel good when a man is attracted to you is not some great sin against feminism, it’s normal sexual behavior. Sure, some women don’t stand up for themselves and get so sucked into pleasing men that they undermine other women and play into sexist dynamics, but we also live in patriarchy and the focus should not be on blaming the victims of this system for its predictable outcomes …

All this to say, I don’t think you should feel like a bad feminist for loving a man (or for loving the way it feels when a man loves you). I like wearing makeup and I’m still learning to not feel guilty about being feminine - certainly these things are compatible with thinking women and men deserve equal rights.

tbh I’m not sure a social critique or movement like feminism makes sense to apply to individuals - it helps us understand the dynamics, but it’s not like one person can somehow overcome those dynamics all by themselves … what I’m saying is, you go girl ✨ 💅 😄

that is amazing, congrats!! 🥳 🙌 💕

Sounds like we might be talking past one another 😅

The rules of the community are that this is a women-only community, but you said:

the mandatory requirement to say all men are excluded in every post title

I was only clarifying that there is no rule that every post must include language in the post title saying all men are excluded …

I’m lazy and was just trying to set up the tool locally, and I was hoping to point to a remote instance like lazysoci.al but I see it depends on a database 🤔 This might not work as I was hoping …

EDIT: I see, the voting information comes from having a Lemmy instance, federating to the instance is what allows the admin to see the vote information (who voted for what, etc.)

awesome, thanks so much!

I was hoping it might be open source so I can run it from my local …

Might I suggest adding a .nvmrc or using volta pin to pin the node version, I had to infer the node version is v24 based on the Dockerfile 😅

don’t forget: https://sh.itjust.works/comment/14544266

so you’re saying you picked a transphobic username as a cis man, then kept it when you transitioned less than a year ago?

And no, I make a terrible ally 😉

I was wondering, is your tool open source?

I feel like an average guy and I met my wife on a dating app

trans women don’t usually call themselves “an average guy”, it shows you identify as a “guy” and not a gal, for example.

Are you saying you’re a trans woman?

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but the mandatory requirement to say all men are excluded in every post title makes this space reek of the ways TERFs isolate and control women.

It’s not mandatory, LadyButteryfly is just doing that on some of her posts because so many men comment on posts in this community, which then takes up a lot of time and effort to remove.

The motivation to put the rule in the title of the post is because so many men don’t read the rules or notice what community they’re in before posting, this helps them be aware and reduces the workload of the moderators.

I hear you on how it can look or seem TERFy, but I think this might just be a misunderstanding, we are explicitly trans inclusive.

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