Apologies for NY Post link but interesting phenomenon

  • zifnab25 [he/him, any]@hexbear.net
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    10 months ago

    Anything in the NYPost is just old people agitprop. This shit isn’t real. There is no such trend. Its all just made up to get the NYP’s central readership stirred up at their nieces and nephews.

  • came_apart_at_Kmart [he/him, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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    I have never enjoyed being in photos, even before they could be viewed and commented on all over the world. I always tried to stay out of them until I was yelled at to get into the frame by some bossy asshole, or like another story here: dragged to a professional photographer and made to pose and smile like a figurine to create some distributable proof of our family to people I didn’t know. if I could push a button and remove every photo of me in existence, I would push it every morning while brushing my teeth.

    some people want to document every moment of their existence and put in on every screen.

    old people who were late to the Internet and still don’t know what it is–who also fit in the “document my life” group–are the only ones that need this shit explained.

    within a week of my boomer mother figuring out how to get on FB and send me, in my late 20s, a friend request, I suddenly get 30+ notifications because she has scanned, uploaded, and tagged me in every photo she could find around the house going back to infancy. it took a while to delete all the tags, and even longer to explain why that wasn’t something I appreciated or why I didn’t want dozens and dozens of photos of me plastered publicly online. the idea that I should even be able to exercise a say in the distribution of my likeness was a radical and unwelcome concept.

    being incurious of others’ feelings and experiences, especially family, is something I can’t wrap my mind around. though I guess that’s how that works.

    • CantaloupeAss [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      being incurious of others’ feelings and experiences, especially family

      wow you just described the dynamic I experience with my entire family, both sides, to a person. I swear to God I go home for holidays and just sit there being talked at, without being asked a question, for three days, and then leave without having opened my mouth.

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      being incurious of others’ feelings and experiences, especially family, is something I can’t wrap my mind around. though I guess that’s how that works.

      In moderation, I see no problems with people sharing memories and photos of whatever. But it becomes annoying when the creation of memories are prioritized over experiencing the present. Zoomers are definitely obsessed with selfies just like anyone else, but when it comes to group events it seems like the vast majority of the ones I know take a couple group photos here and there and see nothing wrong if someone blinked or didn’t smile or isn’t smiling perfectly because they just wanna move on.

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    What?! This is generationally agnostic. Going back to the 90’s I can remember friends and family doing this or effectively the same thing cuz they just didn’t want a picture taken at that moment. This article is just bait.

  • Frank [he/him, he/him]@hexbear.net
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    I remember being bullied in to taking christmas pictures or whatever when I was a kid. Put on uncomfortable clothes, get in the car, drive to, i shit you not, an actual photo studio in like sears or something, spend a bounded infinity being told to smile over and over again until the adults decided I’d met their bizarre standards.

    I hated it, my siblings hated it, i assume my parents hated it, all to create a picutre of a smiling happy family to send around to all the other smiling happy families in exchange for their equally artificial professional photos.

    Sounds like the easy solution here is to stop bullying kids in to being in photos they don’t want to be in.

    Aslo - if a millenial is no writing this bullshit about the zoomers i hope something comedically bad happens to them. We had to live with this bullshit for twenty years and the media only stopped when the zoomers finally got old enough to bully.

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    Because standing still and smiling for sterile, posed photos for 5 minutes is fucking annoying, especially when people become irritated because you won’t or can’t smile big enough or look happy enough for their precious photos.

    I don’t give a fuck about the fake generational wars or whatever. But millennials and everyone older seem to be whipped into wanting everything to look so perfect. And for the record, I am a zoomer and none of my friends or colleagues are interested in these big group photos outside of a couple during an even, and usually they have no problems with it being imperfect. Everyone else is obsessed.

    A few photos make sense, but how does anyone feel any sort of emotion from a dozen of these fake ass photos? I would be completely okay if you candidly took photos of me falling asleep on the couch or looking silly while biting a piece of food because there’s at least some authenticity there.

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    Honestly, a lot of older folk tend to treat younger generations like they’re aliens but this all kind of seems like logical extrapolations from living in the same world i live in and iterating on the same ideas. There’s a difference between family photos that sit in albums for 20 years and things that face publicly

    People who try to stir up that sort of generational warfare thing by acting like their successors come from completely different background have skill issues

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    There are Gen Z’ers who’ve been working full time for a decade already (me) and have like children and a mortgage and shit (not me but i know them), assuming a cutoff date of 1997 from a quick google. How long until they stop peddling this nonsense and move on to whatever the next gen is