The roots of the problem run deep. When women show confidence and assertiveness, they are often seen as competent but unlikeable, a tradeoff known as the “likability penalty.” Meanwhile, those who conform to traditional expectations of humility and modesty may be socially rewarded, but they are less likely to be recognized or promoted professionally. External dynamics, interruptions, dismissed contributions, or condescending explanations further erode women’s voices. The final frontier of gender equality may not lie in law or policy, but in these subtle, corrosive habits that continue to hold us back.



Agreed, this all makes sense and I see it in the article, too.
I’m not sure I entirely misrepresented her words, since her headline, opening and closing thoughts are still all indicating a central point about internal changes women need to make (which isn’t entirely wrong, but definitely did bother me).
Yes, my reactive behavior was due to my experiences and bias, I can own that.
I’m not sure what I’m saying constitutes misinformation as much as a kind of simplification (basically taking the article at its headline and conclusions, rather than including all of the nuance the author attempted to include to balance out their call for women to become more confident, aggressive, etc.).
And yes, we all experience patriarchy, but the reason I raised my personal experiences was to take ownership for my reactivity (which I poorly communicated, I admit), and to also provide context for why I might have taken the author the way that I did.
I’m definitely doubling down on the idea that the author’s message is overall about how women should change and embody more masculine norms so they can take on leadership roles. Yes, she says more than this, but I still think that’s an accurate summary.
But I don’t want you to feel the need to fact check me at all, I’m sorry for the way I’ve approached this entire interaction - I was hasty, thoughtless, and reactive when I could have been reflective, patient, and open instead.
Agreed, especially historically when science and philosophy were not as separate as disciplines, but in the context of contemporary academia this is not as common, primarily because the way a PhD specializes someone in a field, and the way requisite education up to that point is increasingly specialized as well. For example, if you are a physicist it’s unlikely you are taking women’s studies classes at any point during your college education, let alone other relevant classes that would make up a humanities education. Usually you get boxed into a science undergrad that may have opportunity for a few humanities electives, but in my experience STEM majors tend to try to get out of these as much as possible, and the required electives tend to be on vocational writing, rhetoric, composition, etc. and not focused on social theory, etc.
Regardless, I think that’s too high of a bar (something I was trying but failing to communicate earlier) - I don’t really want a society where scientists can’t put in their 2 cents on social issues when it’s the context of a commentary or op-ed, the concern I have is more when those scientists are taken as a serious authority and their (problematic) opinions start to get misinterpreted as coming from a place of expertise in those issues. I don’t think that’s happening here, though.
Regardless, sorry for the distress I created with my comments. I appreciate the time you have taken to challenge and respond to me, and for sharing the article in the first place - as you have pointed out, the author was more nuanced than the headline and first and last few paragraphs imply, and that’s worth taking more seriously than I did.
I’ll try to be better.
I’m always surprised and humbled by people like you, who can disagree thoughtfully and with self awareness. Despite a little frustration on my part, I love to see women stick to their guns.
And I appologize if I came off abrasive. I rejected feminine social norms early on because I’m very stubborn, which led to questioning my gender until ultimately realizing I get to decide what it means to be a woman. I’m direct and I challenge people, but it comes from a place of compassion and a desire for truth. Yes, I know truth is relative. Anyway, that’s part of why I don’t agree there are masculine or feminine personality traits.
Which is why I don’t think the qualities the author wanted women to embody were masculine, rather she pointed out that men have an abundance of confidence where women are lacking. But I can agree to disagree.
You’re right that academia, especially at higher levels, is increasingly specialized. I meant that a person has more experience than just work and school, and we don’t know what electives she took. This author seems interested in sociology from the sources she links.
Either way, I enjoyed this conversation. I like being challenged and it’s important to question everything. You gave me another perspective to consider, even if I didn’t agree with it.