My boss at my first job did this, I agreed though to come to her house at 9:00 PM to help her with the problem with her PC.
She had two glasses of wine ready and was in a bathrobe, nothing was wrong with her PC.
I had brought my wife just to be safe. It was an awkward evening.
So did she watch or join in
It was a nice, polite evening with pleasant socializing, and of course, a weird underlying tension that everyone knew was there but nobody said anything until my partner and I were driving home and had a good laugh.
I stayed friends with my boss for a number of years, she was often a bit “clingy” but I discouraged it gently when I could. It didn’t help that she had a boyfriend.
It really didn’t help that she often described her boyfriend as “murderous and psychopathic.”
The other way this could go is “hey hun, have you heard about these life-changing (insert MLM of choice) products?”.
You’re missing getting asked to help a family member get into your industry/company.
I actually do try and help on that one though… nobody starts from nothing, we all deserve a hand up.
It’s not what you know, it’s who you know
Yeah.
It’s not ideal but it’s something. When you put up a job posting you get swarmed with too many resumes to properly review, and resumes don’t really tell the full story about a person.
Yes and no. Who you know definitely opens a lot of doors. But your ability to progress career-wise will be limited if your ability to actually accomplish useful tasks is shit.
Also, all too often this saying is taken with a defeatist mindset, like all job offers flow purely from nepotism. The reality is that formal job application processes suck big fat donkey dick at sussing out good and bad hires - but hiring someone who is recommended by an existing good employee has a much better chance at a good outcome. It is completely reasonable and rational to hire primarily via social networks. As a potential employee, then, your best avenue for landing the job you want is clear: you have to talk to people!
I know that this won’t go over well with the neckbeards of lemmy, who want to work from home as a plumber, never make eye contact with their coworkers, and only talk to people via their gaming headsets - but it is an obvious and straightforward fact. Want a job, or a job better than the one you have? Be friendly with your coworkers. Joke around and grab beers after work. Have hobbies outside the house and constantly strive to make new friends and social connections. Strike up conversations with random people in bars, parks, or hell, in line at the gas station! Take an in-office job so you can build real relationships with your coworkers and bosses, rather than just being a faceless name on a slack channel. It’s true - it isn’t what you know, it’s who knows what you know! So go know more people!
At least it isn’t a pyramid scheme. Right?
for the last time its not a pyramid its a triangle completely different
Reverse triangle, like a funnel. Right?
This is why I wander down to IT every once in a while on a slow afternoon. I just figured that it must suck to have every conversation start with a problem, so I’ll be the one person who occasionally shows up just to talk
The only people that show up to to chat are the janitors while cleaning and the maintenance guy that checks the fire supression system, I like it that way.
oh they know
Know what? Me? Because that’s the whole point, I show up without a problem once in a blue moon and just chat
And when I do have a problem I call and it’s all business, but we know each other already so neither of us are walking on eggshells
If I didn’t see the bottom left image, I would’ve thought this was a once-a-long-time-ago-acquaintance fallen victim to MLM.
Back in my high school days, I worked at a small company that had like 3 or 4 tech guys, each one assigned to a specific building. The one assigned to ours, wasn’t very knowledgeable on anything, was more of a tech enthusiast. So when anything would go wrong my manager would come get me first. Which then expanded to various co-workers asking if I’d come to their house to fix things. I helped fix so many slow running computers back in the day. Never charged anyone, I saw it as an opportunity to learn and practice. When I got to college, I FLEW through all the course material.
Thats how I got married. Asked some guy I knew on msn messenger to help me with my computer problem. He got really upset and ranted about people only reaching out to him cause they needed their computer fixed and never to ask how he was doing. So I asked him how he was doing. Married for nearly 20 years now.
And that’s how you earn life-time free tech support.
That is a rollercoaster of a post with nothing but red flags in the middle.
is the red flag “man expresses loneliness and frustration”? is that the red flag?
Rando Red Flag:
some guy I knew
MSN Messenger Red Flag:
on msn messenger
Emotional Dysregulation Red Flag:
He got really upset
Histrionics Red Flag:
ranted about people only reaching out to him cause they needed their computer fixed and never to ask how he was doing
Provocateur Red Flag:
is the red flag “man expresses loneliness and frustration”
Truculent Red Flag:
is that the red flag
Malicious Actor Red Flag: Username using template that is very easy to script for automated bulk account creation. For instance, something that combines a random word with a random number.
you must wear out that red flag quickly lol.
Don’t be silly, you can just buy them in bulk.
I wish they asked about me before demanding help
It doesn’t really feel any better once you know that it’s an empty pleasantry they don’t really care to have an answer to.
Well they really do hope you’re well enough to help them at least.
As a mechanic, this is my life.
I don’t let anyone know that I am good with anything. I don’t get any calls.
When I was in college there were a couple times where women used the tech support thing as a pretext to hook up. I miss those days.
damn
i saw that meme and realized that i haven’t contacted lots of good people in a while because of how ofraid i am to resemble the girl
damn, right in the feelings dude, ouch
damn
i saw that meme and realized that i haven’t contacted lots of good people in a while because of how ofraid i am to resemble the girl
damn, right in the feelings dude, ouchWhy? Don’t ask for help and you’re golden.
well, if you really wanna know, i was just having it rough for some time lately, and my friends had problems of their own, so untill recently i kinda spiraled into self-isolation to not burden anyone.
What can i tell, don’t repeat my mistakes, there are always people that want to care about you, and your worst assumptions about yourself aren’t always justified.
Joke is that I’m actually the techy woman.
as we all occasionally ig
doubt there’s much tech illiterate people on lemmy
we’re a bunch of ne-e-erds :D
Correct.
Roger. Copy.
Ok mom.
