I remember liking OKcupid solely for the million questions because once you answer enough of them, you can just quick peek at your absolute deal breakers and be like “oh god you’re a chud, next.” Unfortunately I also am criminally terrible at picking up flirting and subtlety so when a girl started talking about a local kink event, I just was like “oh that sounds neat, have fun.” Had a girl once just outright say “I’m flirting with you” and I still didn’t know what to do. I’ve since made my peace with never touching a dating app again because they’re just awful.