• OceanSoap@lemmy.ml
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    1 year ago

    Okay, but, it takes some serious introspection to re-examine what will actually make you happy vs. what you’ve always thought would make you happy.

    I had to really dig into that in my early 30’s, and now in my late 30’s, I couldn’t be happier.

    • AmarkuntheGatherer@lemmygrad.ml
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      Kids have always dreamed of vocations. Kids feel that calling sense in a much purer way than adults can. They want to sing so they want to be a star. They want to make new things, invent stuff, so they want to be scientists. They want to be cool as shit so they want to become astronauts.

      Capitalism fucks that up in so many ways. I’m not even talking about the fact that western kids today want to be streamers. Nowadays (as in as has been for decades) there’s no calling, even kids realise that being the lowest grunt in whatever organisation isn’t much of a goal so they also dream of “advancement”, except that means doing less of the thing you want to do to manage. And if you advance enough, you get to not do that thing you went in to do.

      Worst of it all, this is just what we face as kids. To say nothing on the alienation we suffer from, to feel like an animal doing human actions and human fulfilling animal needs. Folks got so used to the term wage slavery that they don’t even comprehend how inhuman labour under capitalism is.

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        1 year ago

        Try suppressing your emotions (thats good to do sometimes) and focus on your duty. Be a good husband, worker, and friend. If its beyond your control, then don’t worry about it. Its not your problem if the crane carrying you while you do construction work is operated by a drunk.

        this meme from my earlier post is how I feel if you are miserable. https://lemmygrad.ml/post/713812

        • queermunist she/her@lemmy.ml
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          1 year ago

          What makes me miserable are the things that aren’t beyond all control, they’re just beyond my control.

          Though instead of just feeling sad, I get angry. Wakes me the fuck up!

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    You can’t have happiness without having sadness. In the same way, you couldn’t have things get better if things couldn’t get worse. They are two parts of the same coin. So enjoy the moment. Do not let some roadbumps throw you off the road. ;)