Yeah, tell that to my coworkers that complained to my boss that I don’t spend 20 minutes each morning going from office to office to shake hands with everyone.
If you don’t want to socialise, you don’t get empathy, you get criticized, and forced into doing it anyway.
And no, my work place wasn’t even bad or toxic, people just don’t tolerate non-social people at all. And it’s not like I was being rude or anything, I was engaging with them and such, but just not enough for them.
Yeah I’m realizing I’m on both sides of this. Socializing makes better teams, and better collaboration. It’s also for most people a paid break from individual work.
But people use it to create unhealthy office politics where they use socializing as a means to maintain power hierarchies. So it’s super stressful for everyone who wants no part of that.
I guess assholes really ruin everything for everyone.
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True. But people innyoue case usually make it quickly clear they don’t feel like chatting.
Yeah, tell that to my coworkers that complained to my boss that I don’t spend 20 minutes each morning going from office to office to shake hands with everyone.
If you don’t want to socialise, you don’t get empathy, you get criticized, and forced into doing it anyway.
And no, my work place wasn’t even bad or toxic, people just don’t tolerate non-social people at all. And it’s not like I was being rude or anything, I was engaging with them and such, but just not enough for them.
Yeah I’m realizing I’m on both sides of this. Socializing makes better teams, and better collaboration. It’s also for most people a paid break from individual work.
But people use it to create unhealthy office politics where they use socializing as a means to maintain power hierarchies. So it’s super stressful for everyone who wants no part of that.
I guess assholes really ruin everything for everyone.
I’m not even sure that in my example it was about office politics.
They just didn’t like that I wasn’t doing exactly the same as them, and so it was bothering them.
Now why would anyone be bothered if you don’t shake their hand in the morning more than anything else, that’s what remains a mystery to me.