I bet this sounds like a stupid question - especially coming from a man. However, NoStupidQuestions doesn’t allow NSFW topics, so here I am - bear with me.
I genuinely don’t know what this feels like from the inside. I see so many men go to extreme lengths to chase women - sometimes even risking their careers or relationships just to get laid. Some are literally willing to pay for it. I don’t get it. What does that pull actually feel like?
I’m not judging - I’m trying to understand. I only know what it looks like from the outside, but I have no idea what it’s like on the inside. I’ve had sex multiple times, and it’s fine, but it seems vastly overrated to me. Clearly, I’m not getting out of it what most other men are, so I’m trying to understand the baseline experience.
My motivation for asking is that I’m working on myself and hoping that, eventually, I’ll be able to feel even a fraction of that same pull. However, with things like lifting weights, I at least have a clear image in mind of what I’m working toward - but it’s harder to define that when it comes to subjective experiences.
Refraining from sex accumulates a lot of energy/will in you, it’s great (in moderation). After a week or two I experience a huge buildup in confidence and motivation. It’s just difficult getting to that point, heheh
From my time on Reddit I find people find nofap then start listening to Ben Shapiro and Joe Rogan and next thing you know they’re brown shirts for the GOP.
Wow, ok. What’s the link exactly ? is it religion/abstinence ? but Shapiro and Rogan are not particularly religious are they ?
The idea that refraining from masturbating builds up some kind of internal energy is pretty popular in the incel community, a kind of modern take on conservative daoist sexual energy beliefs. Once you start really looking into it, this stuff feeds directly into the manosphere since they talk all the time about it. It’s also not really a new thing, just reworked to be algorithm friendly.