nocages [they/them]

I don’t agree. It’s just normalized to the degree that most people don’t actively think about the connection anymore, the same way that they don’t think about how calling something that’s boring “lame” originally came from a term describing a physical impairment.

Just because something is normalized doesn’t mean it isn’t harmful. Equating different brains with badness upholds ableism the same way that male-as-default in some languages upholds patriarchy.

It is definitely used by most people to mean that they’ve never been with a man. But of course, transphobes don’t see trans women as women, so… 🤢