The field I work in has a variety of background checks for clients… so for a while until I decide to get new identification documents my deadname will float about… plus my family don’t know about the changing name yet.
The field I work in has a variety of background checks for clients… so for a while until I decide to get new identification documents my deadname will float about… plus my family don’t know about the changing name yet.
Thank you ❤️
Hope it goes well for you!
The past week has been quite the mix of highs and lows.
Couple of rough patches with partner.
Having a very affirming experience in Ann Summers, getting my first lingerie under her guidance.
Having my referral to the gender identity clinic confirmed.
Fucker Carlson streams his show on twitter, since he was fired from having his bullshit platformed on Fox.
My girlfriend pretty much shoved me into the fitting rooms the first time I went to buy a skirt… I was so very nervous showing the gal on the door the one item to try on.
Fast forward a bit and I had a lovely experience at the Levi store … was looking for a new pair of jeans for a holiday. As I was looking at the various cuts I was unsure wear to pick up, as I wanted something more form fitting. My partner said that the female cut has very little crotch area though, so potentially an issue there… so was looking in the men’s section.
Assistant in the store came over and offered help. I somewhat shyly mentioned that I was looking for someone a little tighter on the skin, and mentioned “I have a masc pair already” … their eyes pretty much lit up “Well you won’t find what you want on this side of the store” and pretty much dragged me over to the women’s section, and started pulling bits off the shelf and holding them up to me.
“Well this is pretty much the equivalent of a mens 34 waist, what do you wear normally?”
“Well my femme size in my clothing is usually a 16…”
Again a slight grin… before rushing me over to the cubicles to try on the items they picked out…
A very good eye they had… picked out a pair so comfy and I felt really good in. Was also just such an affirming experience.
Which is also fair as the lines can get very blurred dependant on the definitions in play…
Trans/NB/Fluid/queer are all very closely related after all and people can identify with all of these.
Because you’re focused on the visuals from a single user perspective…
It’s not been a good week tbh…
Had a very rough patch with my partner that we’re trying to work through, but it’s tough.
A lot of tears, some minor self harm, emotions on an erratic seesaw.
Weekend plans are some shopping, see my new nephew, some time with my daughters and preparations for vacation next week.
Way down the street at the moment…
Since I started to lean more femme in my usual attire this really has become a problem…
I’ve had a lot of cats as pets over my life to date.
Three of my favourite were all black kitties.
Then there was my dark tortoiseshell who will always have a special place in my heart.
Have a lovely break! ❤️
Honestly, I’m usually cuddling my little round kitty or Blahaj as I’m drifting off to dreamland…
Very much ups and downs here…
Had my assessment with my private medical cover over my gender identity wtf
Counselling sessions start this week.
Saw friends at the weekend which was nice… apart from the actual bbq being a pretty heavy disaster for my partner and me.
Trying to explain nonbinary to people is so frustrating.
Only slightly more frustrating is not knowing oneself from one moment to the next.
It is a fun game, but if you know what you’re doing it’s so exploitable to get powerful components early.
If I’m feeling on the femme side of things when I arrive, do I need to be tied up?
The amusing thing here is that since coming out, I find panties to be way more comfortable than any of my boxers…
Previous name will be well known…
Agreed with my leadership that I’d put a quick heads up on Slack today in my team channel that my name has changed to avoid surprising anyone Monday, and to give the weekend for anyone to digest.
Response was positive so here’s hoping no issues as work goes next week.