It’s my birthday today.
My friend offered to get me a gift. Not sure what I want, maybe a Kmart milk frother?
Chilling on the couch with my radio show on then I guess some footy watching and playing Hogwarts.
Low key day today but a little concerned I haven’t heard from my dad yet. He sends me a birthday message every year without fail but he has been sick lately.
Anyway I sent him a message just to let me know he’s ok because it’s so unusual for him to not contact me today.
Happy Birthday! 🎈🎈🎈
Happy Birthday!
Hippy birdies!
Happy birthday Duenan. Hope all your wishes come true. 🎉🎂
Happy birthday! 😊
Happy Birthday!!! :)
Happy B’day!
Happy birthday 🎈🎂 hope your dad’s ok 🙏
Happy birthday! 🥳🎂
Happy Birfday. 🎂
Happy birthday! Hope you’ve heard from your dad by now.
Nothing yet :(
Happy birthday! Did you have cake? Woolies mud cake? If not then I suggest you have another birthday tomorrow, with woolies mud cake
Sadly no cake. Only a large packet of chips and a bottle of soft drink was all I had today for snacks.
Happy birthday!! I’m glad you get to treat yourself a bit today after all you’ve been through. I hope you have a really relaxing day where even for a bit you can feel recharged and secure.
Thank you.
Hopefully in a few days time I’ll be able to test out milk frother, even if it’s the Kmart brand, just hope it works ok.
I’m trying to relax as best I can and stay warm but I am worried about my dad and him not answering phone calls or texts but I just have to wait and be patient. He has been pretty unwell of late.
Gratitude thread (not really feeling it today tbh but I guess this might help?)
I’m grateful for giving myself grace for royally fucking up at work that will cause a headache tomorrow (fuck the shape of 50 cent pieces for jamming the cash machine). It’s not the end of the world.
I’m also grateful for the nice orchids I saw.
I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads and for generally being a calm person. Elder said the other day that he misses me being around during the day “because you’ve got this aura of calm around you.” 🥹This is one of the nicest things he’s ever said to me, to anyone.
I am grateful for savlon antisceptic cream.
Over the last few weeks have been so uncoordinated in the gardn, kitchen, moving stuff and sharpening knifes that 100yrs ago would probably need some sort of amputation.
I love savlon so much. I use it to calm my rosacea, I use it on my hands when they are getting a bit worn from house work. On every cut.
I’m grateful for finding an unused Brother colour laser printer for $100 on Gumtree, and lunch in the sun with a friend at friends of the earth on Smith st.
Woah, that is a very good find indeed.
Also the cheap replacement inks are about $80 for a set of four.
I’m grateful for gyoza!!! And for tram drivers that dgaf if you fare evade for a couple of stops. And for the tax return I did yesterday… and this little pack of Victorian grown hojicha that a colleague gave me.
Since it just happened so is fresh in my memory, I guess I’m grateful that my building isn’t on fire and the firies cleared it in about 10 minutes. But that feels like cheating, so I’m grateful for the views up on the rooftop, and having a Barbie and a chat with the old LT up there
FFS autocorrect I wrote “isn’t”, do not change that to “is” you stupid robot
I too am grateful for firemen, but perhaps not for the same reasons as you 😉
Lol I swear I did write “isn’t”, my phone often tries to tell me I mean "don’t when I really mean “do” or vice versa, but changing “isn’t” to “is” is new
Ah, the phone did it/jk. In recent years someone bought a firemen calendar for the boss as a secret Santa/joke gift, and I swear some people checked the calendar multiple times a day but could give no answer when asked the date lol.
Those orchids are beautiful! I’m grateful for the abundance of movies, tv and books available so easily without leaving home. It’s nice to chill out at home on a Sunday afternoon and pick entertainment on a whim.
I’m grateful for being able to catch up with a friend yesterday to celebrate my birthday.
Was nice to get out and be social but it was still deathly cold.
I bought some jonquils yesterday and they’re like little patches of sunshine throughout the house, brightening my mood. I’m also grateful for lazy Sundays, crosswords, tea, and blankets.
I’m grateful to have got some decluttering done and cleared quite a few boxes from storage. I have a hard time parting with stuff for a number of reasons, so this was a big deal for me. Still heaps to go but it’s good progress.
I am grateful for off the rack premade clothes. Sure beats processing hides, spinning wool and making clothes myself.
Grateful that my headache is gone for the moment
For fluffybutt
And for the 4 interviews I have this week. With any luck, on Tuesday I’ll be grateful to have a job
I am definitely getting tired and ready to call it a day. I just thanked someone because I opened the door for them.
Waiter: “Enjoy your meal!”
Me: “You too!”
He’d better enjoy your meal
I do this all the time
All lemons I brought gone :)
Er…. Lemon Party!
🤣
I see a lot of partnered people making some big compromises for various reasons…for the kids, for finances, because they are scared to be “alone”.
At this point in my life with control over my own space and what I do, it would really have to take someone extraordinary to feel as though they were adding to my life rather than me making big sacrifices.
And honestly the thought of trying to date in the hope of that elusive someone feels like a very big gamble with poor odds. If you enjoyed dating and meeting new people, the process even though you don’t win might be bearable, but I don’t really care for it tbh.
If this stage in life is not conducive to a relationship, or is pleasant enough without one, then you’re under no obligation to have one, regardless of the opinions of family and friends. I have a lot of regrets over how little time of my younger life I’ve really lived for me.
Otherwise, I think the important thing is to find someone who wants the same as you, no matter what that is. If you’re a “meet in the middle,” compromising person then it’s important that the person you’re with also has those qualities, or you’ll find you’re always the one having to be flexible, and may end up feeling taken advantage of. If you’re an individualist who wants to have a lot of independence and “room to move” within a relationship, and can’t bear the thought of “living in someone else’s pockets” then it’s vital to live true to that while that’s how your life is. A couple of friends of mine are very career forward people, spend a lot of time separate from each other due to the demands of their careers, but undeniably love and respect each other and aren’t clingy. It’s perfect for them. How do you know how it’s going to be with someone? You don’t always, or you think you know people but then they change, or you find out things you didn’t know. The arrival of children can complicate things that before seemed much simpler and more straightforward.
I sacrificed a lot for someone who hurt me for over 8 years, in varying ways. I grew up abused and it set me up for abuse later on because I had no idea what was normal. I almost had a kid with the cunt (thank fuck I made my own money and bought a plan b pill).
But I would never let myself do that again. I know so much more now, about people, the world, and right and wrong. I got extremely lucky my one-night-stand turned out to be my person. We’re better together than we are separately. But if I hadn’t of met my current partner, I think I’d still be single after leaving my ex. Dating seems so dangerous now for vagina-owners (what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite).
I’d never change myself ever again for another person. I’d compromise (like quitting smoking), but not on the big things (buying a house, having kids, etc).
what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite)
I don’t know, but it scares and confuses me too
The difficulty level of dating increases with the gay overlay as well, but for different reasons.
Love makes you compromise. Love makes you sacrifice. If you have love for one another those things are easier.
A person who loves you would never ask for compromises on important things like belief, children, vocation. etc
I don’t know. I think there’s room to compromise on everything.
Here’s an example. One person I know has a husband that smokes and has no intention of quitting, and now their children also smoke.
I wouldn’t even get into a relationship with a smoker to begin with because for me that’s a deal breaker. Same with any other substance abuse problem.
100% agree. Life is full of compromise.
@wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work
I’m on the other side of the fence.
Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.
Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that you’re “losing” something.
I’ve noticed it with people I’ve dated that are western. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just different.
But it never sat well with me. Seems a bit transactional…
Admittedly my culture is different, so that’s probably why I don’t mind compromise. In a way, it’s an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.
That said, there are fundamental aspects of who I am that I cannot compromise on. Because if I did, I’d end up resenting the person I’m supposed to love.
/mild rant
The thing is, compromise doesn’t always start out as effort. Early on in a relationship (or maybe youth is a factor?) it can feel easy to work with differences. And then over the years as we grow and mature sometimes our wants, needs and habits evolve and set firmer. Our world view can change, our life goals can change. But you might still love the person you’re with so you continue to try and make it work. Sometimes that works out and the relationships stays strong, sometimes it doesn’t. I think if I was starting over again at my age I too would be a lot less flexible in what I wanted in a partner. I know myself better.
The other reason why people might stay in non-perfect relationships is that the way our society works, it’s centred around a couple being the primary relationship unit. So doing things like housing, child rearing, holiday companion, someone to help if you’re sick, someone to chat to if you had a bad day at work, etc, are all often done with a partner. Without a partner it can be hard work to build a network that can fill those roles, or you have to be happy to do it on your own. So yes there’s compromises, but if the partners value the companionship enough they may choose to tolerate the annoyances and personality differences.
I mean what is the difference in your mind between olerating a minor annoyance versus a major compromise?
I guess the smoking example is a good one. I really hate it, but maybe could live with it if other things ok. I couldn’t live with major ideological or political differences.
@SituationCake @wscholermann
Out-of-copyright Ukulele strum by an Australian composer and a theme for faithful relationships https://sdarby.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/07/Take-Me-1924-Lumsdaine.pdfAnd the tune, for those who don’t read music good https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9z5waeS4-aU
Mr P has finished remaking his bed out of bits of the broken/destroyed bed plus other timbers, and there was much swearing and insults while trying to get it into the house. Hey, don’t get shitty at me, I’m not the one who constructed a thing too big to fit through the damn door! We ended up putting it through the living room window and it just fit through. He hasn’t done too bad a job, but I’m not praising it on principle because he shouldn’t have smashed it up to start with.
Edit: ok I probably will praise it a little bit. While I’m still a bit miffed that he broke the bed in the first place, it is actually pretty impressive to be able to make yourself a bed.
The day of darkness begins much earlier than wanted. Power goes out shortly. Boo! Overusing heater in the hope warm will hold for a bit, then decamping for mini golf and boiling a ham hock.
Anti-gratitude thread.
My headlight died. I just changed the bulb a couple of weeks ago.
This mild stuffed up ears and nose can go in the bin.
A friend of mine passed away less than 2 months ago, and now her son has messed up big time (no sympathy, he really screwed up in a stupid unnecessary way) and is going to jail, I’d say for a long time. His boys lost their beloved Nan and now their Dad in less than 2 months and I’m pissed off about it. Also, the oldest of the boys is friends with my boy but I don’t know the mum, so they probably won’t see each other anymore. The kids are nice kids, but their little world has changed so much in such a short time, and I really feel for them.
Punched a wall yesterday removing render and now have a raw knuckle that is all swollen and nonworky. I need that finger to pick my nose, dammit
I am utterly ungrateful for the stupid dangling bits on the seam of my socks that have given me a blister
I put a studio subwoofer (weighs about 50kg) straight into a wall yesterday trying to get it down stairs on a trolley. Such a stupid mistake. I’ve fixed the hole (sort of) but everytime I walk past I just shake my head :(
Well I pretty much already did this, but I’m still annoyed so will do it again. Google nerfed my maps timeline. There’s only 2 reasons I stay in the google ecosystem: 1. Google timeline, and 2. Google photos. But if those donkeys keep breaking everything I like them I’m going to cancel my Google one membership, finally purchase unraid, and build a nice little google free lifestyle where people don’t break everything for no reason. I’m still annoyed about them killing the mobile MyMaps app
Amen.
I broke something even more at work by attempting to fix it. And my headlight also died. The way the car is means I might have to take the whole front panel off to change it.
bloody hell. Good days work there, considering how hard I went yesterday.
Concrete pile moved, future food garden area cleared to the point where I can take out the last of those bloody stupid brick and concrete dividers, both green bins filled and a spillover barrel. 10K steps well and truly in, so I’mma gonna eat a giant bag of chips and watch a shitload of WWDITS w00t w00t
Beautiful day for some gardening. I love to work through all the things that are pissing me off with a few hours’ hard work outside, and a full green bin is very satisfying.
oh we have so much clearing to do we literally had to order another green bin as we work through it all. Once we’re set even the green bin won’t get much use, but there’s just too much to deal with atm
Fuck me. I heard evacuation alarms coming that I thought were from the shops so I went out to film the response and then alarms started going off in my building. Fucking RIP the people on the 22nd floor. I got confused going down the fire escape from the 2nd
I’m outside now, not wearing any shoes, but I ain’t fucking dying in an apartment fire. So I’m just chilling half dressed outside barefoot. FML
Also this is the first time I’ve ever heard the “woop woop woop, evacuate now. Emergency” myself. Luckily common sense kicked in and I fled down the stairs. But I left my keycard in my room, so when they clear it I’ll have to get buzzed back in
Edit: apparently a fire sprinkler pipe in the car park got hit by a car and burst, which triggered the entire evacuation system. The fireies have to stop it from flooding without affecting the rest of the fire system before we can go back in. I guess flying out without grabbing a pair of shoes or my keycard was an over reaction, but I guess it means the whole "get out and do not grab ANYTHING they taught me in kinder and primary school worked
clarification
Okay so I realised I didn’t explain this well. I heard the “woop woop woop” off in the distance and assumed it was the shops down the road. I didn’t see anything on Vic emergency so my first thought was pretty much “oh FFS I hope there’s not another stabbing” so I went out to my balcony and started filming (I heard sirens approaching). Then I heard the thingy in my room start going off and it took a few seconds to click that it was my building. So then I ran out the door and forgot where the nearest fire stairs were (there regular stairs that head down to a courtyard, as well as 2 sets of fire stairs near the elevator). Completely missed the exterior stairs lmao
do you have one of the systems where the guy saying evacuate now, emergency sounds like pete smith from the old copperart ads?
I don’t know what copehard or who Pete Smith is, but I’m pretty sure the alarm tones and voices are standardised across Australia. It’s the same one that the occasional uni and shopping centre evacuation videos posted on r/Melbourne had, and I’m pretty sure it’s the same one that was in the Bondi junction videos
That first link is the classic pete smith
I don’t hear the resemblance to the first one, only the second
It’s the old timie radio advertising voice. Clear and precise. John Deeks has a similar way.
This is Pete Smith speaking.
true, but I know who pete smith is and am very very familiar with his voice being of A Certain Age. The “Emergency!” is dead on petey
After having alarms go off due to someone cooking so many times, I simply ignore the alarm my apartment building.
That doesn’t sound like a great idea, but apartments are all built to fire resistance standards, so as long as the builders and building inspectors did their job, and your building was built this century, you should be safe, at least until the firies do a walk through and tell you to get out. In hindsight, flying out as quickly as I did was probably a bad idea. If there was a fire and it was in front of my door I’d’ve been pretty screwed since I was out the door before the door was even properly open.
Also I ran down the stairs, and I’d just polished off a nice big bowl of ice cream so I’m not feeling too great now
They should be built to fire standards, but the whole combustible cladding problem shows that’s not always the case.
Butt frozen
The worst part of a migraine, is when it subsides, you’re in a state of hypervigilance in case it returns.
Bed, cat, iPad games and feeling sorry myself for today I think lol
Which games? Always interested in trying new ones!
On my phone I have Peglin and Slice and Dice. Peglin is a peg/ball, roguelite/like, rpg. Slice and Dice is similar but dice rolls instead of pegs. Iirc they’re like $10 each on the Play Store and that’s it. You get the full game. I think they’re also on PC.
Card Games: I have Slay the Spire on my phone which is a cool game. Again, pay once and you own it.
These games don’t have any micro transactions or anything. I play them all the time! Especially since my partner is using my PC to play Stellaris lol.
Not sure if they’re on the Apple Store though, sorry…
I’m playing this game called Breach Wanderers. It’s like Slay the Spire, but more variety. I’m not usually into this kind of game, but it’s really good and kind of addictive lol
I also play a game called Triple Town. I don’t think it’s on the play store anymore. If you check it out and like it, I’ll send you the installation file. Really, really good.
Sky full of ice crystals - sunset should be fabulous tonight.
Last night was the first night post-solstice I noticed the sunset lasting a little longer. Thank goddess.
I didn’t make it to Fairfield, but I did go to Hawthorn and probably spent a bit more than I expected to - picked up frozen tempeh from Grand Laguna because few places have the proper stuff, splurged on some mapo tofu flavour packets (I don’t use doubanjiang enough to have it in my fridge), got some tofu to use and some to freeze (I hear it has a good texture when frozen and defrosted), bought a bougie Flinders lime, and… most excitingly of all…
…dropped $13.50 on a 30-pack of frozen Osaka Ohsho veggie gyoza from Japan. I cooked up 10 just now, but I have leftover oil in the pan and dipping sauce, so the only right thing to do here is make some more. What a travesty 😩
Google made another one if their little annoying and breaking changes (as they do). They’ve basically killed maps timelines, at least as they used to be. They tricked me into signing up for it. I know a lot of people don’t like timeline, but I really do. Firstly it’s the only tool I have to make sense of some of the moves I’ve made over time and is the only real record I keep of the places I visit, secondly I export the timeline data onto a heatmap that shows me where I still haven’t been yet.
They have this “encrypted backup” thing now, but even submitting a takeout request doesn’t give me the actual timeline. And of course this “local” timeline is hidden amongst all the system files I can’t even access, and is probably in some proprietary garbage encrypted format.
I’m guessing they probably did this to comply with some legal requirement, but that doesn’t make me feel any better. I just want to generate my place heatmaps FFS. They’re still using my timeline history for advertising and “personalisation”, the only thing that’s changed is instead of it being stored somewhere else I can access conveniently, it’s stored locally but fucking impossible to reach
