• festnt@sh.itjust.works
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    5 months ago

    thank god my girlfriend used to be (and still is) extremely to the point

    we were just walking with our friend group, then something happened that her and i were way in front of everyone else (i dont remember if they stopped or if we just walked faster), and she didnt know how to say it, so she just kissed me on the cheek

    idk if its still possible for someone to misunderstand that. probably is

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      5 months ago

      I’m the same way, I’m autistic and assume everyone else also doesn’t get subtext and social cues so I just say what I mean and honestly, when they say 'tism rizz, it just means not being afraid of embarrassment or rejection.

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        5 months ago

        I don’t know if I’m autistic but I’ve always functioned this way too. I can’t understand subtext. Things have to be spelled out for me, I never understood why communication shouldn’t simply be as clear as it can be. Experience gave me some clues, though, so I can do the translation myself in some (most?) cases, but I feel it’s never going to be intuitive at all.

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          5 months ago

          Yeah the only reason I can catch it is years of studying how other people communicate, but I’ve basically stopped masking in social situations at this point in my life. I think a lot of folks find it refreshing when you communicate directly

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            This feels good to read. I’m at the point where I reduce the masking gradually, and I find it relaxing. I also came to realize how taxing it was… I think I can handle being different now, with all that entails