• EdibleFriend@lemmy.world
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    9 months ago

    This always blows my mind as an American. Considering how our country is… How are we so much more friendly and talkative than the rest of you people?

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      9 months ago

      I read some study about it a few years back… in summary, americans are doing the fake friendliness thing where they ask everyone and their mother how they are doing, if they want to grab coffee sometime, and so on while actually meaning nothing of it. Meanwhile Europeans don’t do that. They are only really friendly to people they are familiar with, and immediately sceptical of the American kind of fake friendliness. Basically, we wouldn’t ask someone how they do unless we are actually interested in that.

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          Another interesting thing I once read is that there are apparently subconscious cultural norms for things like eye contact.

          Many Americans visiting Europe report that they often feel stared at, which is caused by a minuscule difference in how long it is appropriate to meet someone’s gaze, for example when walking in public and looking at a stranger. Apparently Americans look somewhere else a fraction of a second earlier, and this tiny difference makes them feel stared at.

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        9 months ago

        Well yeah, of course I mean I’m not saying you aren’t in general. But with strangers like that, how Americans can be. I’m constantly having random conversations with strangers and it completely blows my foreign friend’s minds when I talk about stuff like that.

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      9 months ago

      Not bothering strangers with inane conversation is more friendly to me. Forcing strangers into conversations is rude. But I live in Vancouver, we have similar transit culture to Europe.