She listened and was super supportive. Helped me a lot talking with her about it. But she also said, right after, that she could not date me anymore. Got the ambivalent feeling sharing had helped me move on from some things, but also ruined our chances somehow. I don’t regret it. Just how it is.
The OP commenter said she listened and was super supportive. That she helped him move on from some of those traumas. That he doesn’t regret talking to her.
She didn’t owe him a relationship. She did extend kindness and an open ear.
Christ, the gymnastics you’re going through to exonerate her of any responsibility to act like a decent human being, to maybe avoid taking a massive shit on someone else’s feelings.
Twisting this to make her out to be some kind of good person for this is outright disgusting. I hope, for the good of humanity, that you don’t date.
The OP commenter said she listened and was super supportive. That she helped him move on from some of those traumas. That he doesn’t regret talking to her.
She didn’t owe him a relationship. She did extend kindness and an open ear.
Christ, the gymnastics you’re going through to exonerate her of any responsibility to act like a decent human being, to maybe avoid taking a massive shit on someone else’s feelings.
Twisting this to make her out to be some kind of good person for this is outright disgusting. I hope, for the good of humanity, that you don’t date.
I’m married, but thanks.
No one is owed a relationship. Not even when they have trauma.
She certainly could have handled it differently, but openly listening and being supportive is not something bad people do.