• lightnsfw@reddthat.com
      2·
      11 days ago

      This has happened to me twice. It’s not always a kneejerk reaction. Sometimes those feelings just go away and they don’t come back. We tried staying together and working on it but it just didn’t work out. They were actually fine with the sexless state of things, it was me that had a problem with it.

    • velma@sh.itjust.works
      12·
      12 days ago

      She listened and was super supportive. Helped me a lot talking with her about it. But she also said, right after, that she could not date me anymore.

      What knee jerk reaction? She was supportive and helped him.

      She didn’t owe him a relationship because he opened up to her. She owed him respect and support which she gave.

        • velma@sh.itjust.works
          32·
          11 days ago

          You don’t know that she realized a relationship wouldn’t work because she felt he was weak for sharing. It could be that she has past trauma as well that wouldn’t mesh with his. There’s many possibilities here.

          The important thing is that she was supportive and honest. Can’t ask another person for more than that.

            • velma@sh.itjust.works
              32·
              11 days ago

              I agree and I hope it gets better. I know I’m actively working towards making it better for men. It’s a small drop in the bucket, but it’s there.

              It’s less commonplace than it used to be and we can make it even better.