But also, sometimes it isn’t a mask, it’s just that a person doesn’t come off particularly gay. I’m not one of those people by a long shot, my whole style comes off lez as fuck (especially when I femme it up) and IDK how I’d even start to try to come off as less gay, but I’ve had plenty of friends and mentors who are being exactly themselves you’d only know they’re queer because they told you.

Hell it was a thing in my family to joke about how my uncle was the most generically masculine man in the family, meanwhile he’d spent most of his adult life heavily involved in queer community and activism. Meanwhile his husband read as gay from across the room.