I met up with this guy who I met on social media, I assumed he knew I’m trans because it’s all over my profile.

Well imagine my face when he asks if I’m taking the pill. So I had to stop him there and tell him that I’m trans.

Good thing he didn’t mind, but it was such an embarrassing moment at first because I was like “what pill are you talking about?” 😭

  • tomcatt360@lemmy.zipEnglish
    43·
    6 days ago

    Just a quick note here, it’s a good idea to tell those you are dating that you are trans in a safe place. I had a cis guy tell me that he dumped his mtf date on the side of the road when he realized that she was trans while they were making out. Make sure that your date knows before you get physical! Stay safe, friend

    • brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
      28·
      6 days ago

      I didnt want to bring this up but yeahhhh if in the USA definitely be safe out there. Especially with the “gay panic defense” being a thing in some parts of the country 😰

      • jaybone@lemmy.zipEnglish
        10·
        6 days ago

        Is it really more accepted in other countries? Let’s say outside of south east Asia.

        • brookedSmile@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
          16·
          6 days ago

          I dont know about other countries but the “gay panic defense” is terrifying

          Dont read the spoiler if you dont wanna know

          spoiler

          The gay panic defense has been accepted as a legal defense in at least a couple states, with most other states not addressing it or not having it come up yet. Its a defense to murder. Essentially boils down to person A is trans (or gay, or some other lgbt flavor) and person B is not and also doesnt know person A is. Date ensues, go back to either persons house, make out yada yada. Then person B finds out while undressing that person A is trans. Person B freaks out, and murders person A. Person B claims “gay panic” saying that the shock of finding out sent person B into a temporary insanity/psychosis and that theyre not responsible for what happened.

          While this defense isnt used terribly often nowadays, it still allowed in several states (or hasnt been banned). Read more here or on wikipedia

          • jaybone@lemmy.zipEnglish
            8·
            6 days ago

            Yeah the US isn’t great. But I imagine things are even worse in like Latin American countries where machismo and/or Catholicism is a big thing. Or African and middle eastern countries where being gay is enough to get you stoned to death. Some of those countries might not even investigate, thus not even having a “defense.”

  • TurboWafflz@lemmy.worldEnglish
    13·
    6 days ago

    To be fair one of my friends who is a cis woman didn’t realize there was currently no way for a trans woman to have a uterus until I told her

  • Jul (they/she)@piefed.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    17·
    6 days ago

    Yeah I’ve learned to be very direct about it since some people seem not to read profiles at all. I hate dating apps, but it seems like there aren’t many other options to meet new people these days, especially if you aren’t really into the bar scene.