• a_gee_dizzle@lemmy.cadeleted by creator
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    People have different comfort levels with these things. If some women don’t want their partner watching porn, that’s fine, we shouldn’t mock them for that. Of course if their partner disagrees with this stance they are free to try and persuade or leave or whatever. But that’s a personal issue for them to sort out

    Edit: you guys are literally downvoting me for saying women are allowed to have preferences

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      We really should mock it because that is a toxic and controlling behavior which shows a lack of emotional maturity.

      You’re being downvoted for enabling and making excuses for toxic behavior by trying to mask it as a simple preference like preferring blonde over brunette.

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        By this logic you could say all monogamous relationships are toxic. As long as both parties are consenting participants to the arrangement then I don’t see what the issue is

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          Personally, I do believe monogamy is toxic by being an extension of centuries of toxic cultures having influenced human society conditioning us against polyamory. Humans historically practiced polygamy until arbitrary religious and socioeconomic beliefs began to influence our society, teaching us to be ashamed of our natural behaviors.

          But that is much deeper issue with society at large which is neither here nor there.

          If someone doesn’t like their partner doing something that is harmless and not affecting them in the slightest, then they need to practice some introspection into why the actions of others that do not directly affect them or harm anyone else bothers them so much and sort that out for themselves to become emotionally mature instead of trying to control the behaviors of others.

          Also, my logic makes allowance for monogamy. In a monogamous relationship, going outside of it as one would in a poly relationship comes with the risk of STDs, which directly affects the other partner, so it makes it their business who their partner sleeps with to be able to have informed consent if they want to continue being in a sexual relationship with the individual.

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      Yeah they can have their stance. Good luck finding a partner, but there is nothing wrong with the belief.

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        In some cultures this would not be a niche belief and it will be easier to find a partner that shares these values

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          Upon consideration, I wish everyone well. I hope any such person finds their person if they look, and I hope they make each other happy.

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      14 days ago

      Turned off by couple of the comments

      Regardless of whether it happened, the idea of laughing at someone for such a boring* opinion… one can use their words and tell the person you find it difficult not to perceive their statement as absurd (which is why you probably want to know a bit more and ask about their logic, or you’ve already moved on to a new subject or person).

      *Maybe if they talk about, say, lizard people laughing would be expected?