So, my friend Steve insists that he is fine but always seems angry/talks in an annoyed or frustrated tone and it makes me sad. He doesn’t seem to care about anything and he says he cares about me but he’s so dry, usually depressed, and doesn’t wanna talk about it, insisting he’s fine and doesn’t talk to me at ALL. It’s really draining but I feel like a bad person. I wanna be there for him but I just feel like I’m bothering Steve.
Try an indirect approach. Get him out doing stuff and have fun. See if his attitude changes over time. Sometimes there is nothing subconsciously wrong with a person, they are just grumpy/miserable.