• Wutchilli@feddit.org
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    I geht why stuff like that needs to be studied, but bruh…every autistic person could have given you that information

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    «“High-functioning” autistic people — for example, those with a milder form of autism such as Asperger’s syndrome, often develop compensatory mechanisms to deal with their difficulties in understanding other people’s thoughts. The details of these mechanisms are unknown, says Young, but they allow autistic people to function in society and to pass simple experimental tests such as determining whether someone has committed a societal “faux pas.”»

    Pattern recognition. A > B > C.

    It’s not intuitive. It’s like head math and requires a bit of contemplation. I read intentions largely by baser instincts, so dealing with normies is like going on safari - that hurts.

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    I always assume people have good intentions, even when I know deep down it’s not true. So, at first glance I can be really naive, but if I take a step back and stop to think, I usually understand how I might get screwed with. It’s really annoying, especially when I’m pressured into giving a quick answer…

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      never give quick answers. there’s no answer worth giving quickly that’s not also worth giving slowly.

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      For me, it’s two things.

      First, it feels immoral and wrong. My ego doesn’t allow that, or else I think I’m a bad person. It’s a black and white thing for me.

      Also, neurologically, the mirror neurons usually don’t work right on autistic people. That’s why we often have difficulties with empathy. But that also means, that sometimes, we kinda have the feeling that the person you’re speaking to can “read your mind”, even if they can’t of course. But, at least I, then think that it’s super obvious that I’m lying, even if it isn’t, and I get super anxious.
      It’s hard to explain.

      But social interactions in general are fundamentally based on manipulation, both intentional or not. Being anti-manipulative or radically honest just breaks social norms and is hard to deal with for neurotypical people 🥴

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      I can only tell you about my personal lived experience but it’s because more things feel like lying and I prefer to be moral when possible.

      It is extremely common to be told that you have no filter because what people call a filter feels like dishonesty, not telling someone how you really feel about them feels like dishonesty. More things feel like dishonesty and I’m less inclined to do them.

      If I lie to someone about something it has to be pretty serious and premeditated.