I’ll start: if they have hobbies it’s a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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      Liking cats can be a good indicator on how they understand and see consent. 👍

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        Interesting thought, but I wouldn’t say these are dependent on each other at all.

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          Well it’s obviously not an absolute truth, more of a good rule of thumb I think. It also depends on the reason they don’t like cats in the first place.

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        Come on, I prefer cats but the reason people prefer dogs is because they do consent to the kinds of interaction dog-lovers want to have with their pets. If someone doesn’t like cats because cats often don’t want to be petted all the time it just means that person wants a pet who wants to be petted.

        Also I do things to my cats without their consent all the time: I give them medicine they don’t want, I use a vacuum cleaner, and I move them from places I don’t want them to be. They are animals, not humans, and how I interact with them is not a model for how I interact with humans.

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            I’m not interpreting you as believing it’s an “absolute truth” I’m saying it doesn’t seem like it would bear any relationship whatsoever. You are still saying that as a rule of thumb dog-lovers are less likely to respect people’s (lack of) consent than cat-lovers. That’s insane.

            Let’s be real about it: being a cat or dog person can tell you something about a person’s personality and hence give you a hint about whether you’ll get on with them. A green flag should first of all be universal, not dependent on the person considering it, and second it should actually be a reasonably accurate indicator.

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              actually they didn’t say anything about dog owners. You’re reaching for an argument where none exists.

              hmph. must be a dog owner

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        A dog will behave the same to interactions, that it doesn’t like, as cats: Leaving, telling (with their respective sounds), scratching, biting. Change cats in your sentence to any animal that is able to interact with humans (fish is difficult for example) and I would agree.