I don’t understand how wanting to use feminine pronouns for someone femme-presenting and “wanting to be a woman” is “forcing an agenda”? Is respect an agenda now?
Also, it seems like it would give her dysphoria to use he/him pronouns on someone who wants to be the opposite gender (although I realize pronouns =/= gender)
Once someone has let you know how they prefer to be referred to then you are just being rude if you choose to do otherwise. No one is forcing you to do anything but when you choose to be impolite shouldnot expect to be praised for that choice.