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I am straight, so i’d have to first have sex with a woman to figure out if i dont like it, THEN try with a dude to see if thats better.
Now you need to try bottoming to see if you don’t like that. Maybe what you hate is being the top 🤷🏻♂️
Its the only way to be sure!
Although… having a disappointing hookup with some rando doesn’t sound not gay.
This is logical and healthy imo. To be straight does not have to mean absolutely hating any sort of gay sex, just not being into it. I think that society makes as believe that straight means the absolute opposite of gay, when really all sexual preferences are one big spectrum and you can be a straight man who is willing to try gay things but not enjoying them.
Logical enough. I did nearly the same thing.
Hooked up with a couple. Was more attracted to the girlfriend even though boyfriend was more enthusiastic and attentive in bed.
I’m lesbian.
Friend of mine (m) and his then gf had a threesome with a woman and both him and his gf realised they were gay during that threesome.
sounds like the hook for a movie
An ex (casual) once told me about her ex that “He needed to suck enough dicks to realize that it wasn’t for him.” A little on the crass side, maybe, but she wasn’t judging him for it and it’s perfectly valid. We’ve only got one life to live and not experimenting with one’s sexuality, if so inclined, is kinda silly.
I would argue your sexuality isn’t necessarily something you already were when you were born and you have to figure out, i would say words like gay and straight are words to describe other what you desire and what you don’t desire. If you’re curious and haven’t decided which words fit, just take more time and try more things. On the other hand, if you now figured something out you can now have words to describe what you do and do not want in life.
Stinky? Try again with a good bottom who does their prep work first.
It could be man smell and not ass smell
True. I like a moderately musky guy, so that one didn’t occur to me.
Yeah as someone not into guys it’s a powerful and unpleasant smell in a very different way. Like when you’re eating something you very much dislike but understand others might love it. This is contrasted to the butt smell where yes some people are into that, but it’s because they’re freaks
Like when you’re eating something you very much dislike but understand others might love it.
Man-stink is like Brussels sprout?
No because you’d have to be insane to not love Brussels sprouts /s
Idk, even good prep can end up with some smell, it is what it is. But let’s be real, all sexual acts can have smells, we are smelly creatures.
Oral can definitely be a bit stinky, but that is just human nature.
I’ve read all of the comments, at this point, and absolutely no one is actually replying to the question OOP posed. It’s impossible to get a straight answer out of any of you.
Is that a joke?
Glad I slogged through that until I got to the pun. Nice work!
You need to top and bottom at least once for a valid opinion.
You need to do it regularly for several months at least to really understand the culture and determine if it’s right for you.
Right, what if that prostate massage has your legs all shakey?
You could still not be gay, just into pegging.
Fun fact this is how I learned a coworker pegged her husband. He wasn’t gay, but had no interest in topping her either. C’est la vie.
I don’t know why, but it seems weird to call it topping when it’s hetero. It’s like cultural appropriation or something.
Pegging doesn’t feel as good as the real thing, though. I would rather have a real penis in me than a plastic rod with a rubber penis over it, and I’m not gay.
Idk, sounds pretty gay. Or at least bi. But what do I know.
Many pegging tools don’t look like a penis. No head, no buldges, etc. Just a curved cylinder with a half spherical top. Just to hit to prostate, and that’s it.
True! And what a way to find out you’re into pegging.
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I mean, it’s still accurate as to whether you like performing murder. You might not like murder as an idea or as a thing that people do, but until you try a murder, you don’t know whether you will enjoy the act of murdering.
Oh fuck now I’m confused. I don’t know what I should do this weekend, eat some broccoli, fuck a dude or murder someone.
Ohhhh I think I have a plan…
As someone who has done a similar experiment (though only making out) I feel like this guy is gayer than myself because I don’t think I could stay turned on or motivated enough to fuck a dude effectively, even a very fem one.
That being said I feel like gay is supposed to mean “attracted to other men” not “not-overtly-repulsed by sex with another man”
There are asexual people who can and do still have sex because they aren’t sex repulsed. Those people are still asexuals, just like asexuals who are sex repulsed are asexuals.
It’s less about what you do and more about why you’re doing it that makes it gay. Are you attracted to other men? No? Then I guess it’s not necessarily gay.
Gay sex isn’t gay? The boys group chat was right all along??
I mean… masturbation for men means touching male genitalia. You’re not bothered by that. So why be so bothered by other male genitalia?
I had a few gay experiences as a teenager. I had fun, but I never dreamed of it, unlike with girls. Even a whiff of some girly sweat mixed with like the intoxicating smell of some girls hair could make me wank off to them for days. But never replayed the experiences with my male friend in my head when looking for sexual excitation.
But the gay experiences were more like “I wonder what a blowjob feels like”. Zero sexual innuendo or romance or lust or infatuation or anything.
Just two friends getting each other off for a novel experience.
Wasn’t really my thing. But I’m fairly confident I’m more confident I’m not gay than most guys, having explored that aspect and found it to really not be my thing.
Did the same with most drugs as well. Tried em all in my youth, but now I only use weed and alcohol.
Gay people often have straight sex when they are unsure about their sexuality. As society becomes less homophobic I’d expect more straight guys to experiment with other guys.
How you know this is legit: if he’d been talking about any dating app other than grindr step 6 would look like 'wait 6 weeks to get a match, get ghosted, get depressed, go to bed mumbling about ‘who needs sex anyway?’.
I think it’s valid either way. “I’m not attracted to men, thus I’m straight” is as valid as “tried it, didn’t like it, thus I’m straight”
And works the other way around too, I imagine many people who define themselves gay have had romantic or sexual experiences with the opposite sex, but didn’t like it.
Agreed. I’ve kissed two boys as like dares but didn’t like it and I can acknowledge a guy is hot without being turned on by them so I think I’m comfortably on the straight side of the spectrum.
If a man does anything that’s not approved by the strict regulation of the council of his male friends then they are gay. Its simple, there is no need to over complicate it by introducing sex.
My friends said it’s only gay if our balls touch.
That is the standard definition.
Well there’s also keeping your socks on, not making eye contact or saying “no homo” just afterwards too. So I’d say that there’s no “standard definition” but many variants.
A man is also gay (and has a small penis) if he rejects the advances of a femcel. At least according to femcels.
Men are also gay for going down on women, for some reason.
Damn! I must be a massive queen then.
Calm down DJ Khaled.
I’ve been around a while and that’s a new one on me.
This explains a lot
