I can’t tell you how many times I had ended up with little to no blankets after sleeping 4 four hours. Eventually, spouse and I decided that we would get two full-size blankets for the bed so that we could each have one. This has prevented so many restless nights.
I’ve always had an issue sleeping next to someone unless it was on accident. Like, falling asleep on the couch for example. But I can’t do it on purpose. A mix of not being able to get comfortable and what I can only describe as being self conscious about how I sleep make it nearly impossible. Also, I move in my sleep. Having someone else in the bed has always made things more complicated.
I always have that at the start of a new relationship. But for me it goes away after a few weeks. i absolutely get beeing self conscious. Do i sleep weird? Am I breathing in a strange rhythm?
this echoes a lot of my behaviors.
I’ve never really gotten over it. I think I get some sleep just because I’m usually exhausted.
are we doomed?
I think it’s perfectly reasonable to sleep in separate beds. Just because you don’t sleep next to them doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy their company. Whenever my girlfriend would come over I’d wait until she fell asleep and then go sleep on the couch. It was an understanding we had. She fell asleep better with someone there and I fell asleep better by myself.