I followed mander@medicine.xyz from my account on this instance, and another nodebb instance.
This one shows Following, the other shows pending!
Follows dont need acceptance do they, why the difference?
Also, why a settings icon only on my nodebb instance?!
Yea, odd, I made a second account on mysite and that follows and unfollows normally. So its a mystery why my first Admin account is doing it differently. Maybe one day we will figure out whats altering the behaviour