I wasn’t a part of making this community, but I’ve done a little to help it grow… Here’s the rub; while I think we generally try to meme from a uniquely trans fem pov (which is awesome) there is an entire toxic form of femininity ready to latch on to this community. One only has to do a quick search on 🤮eddit to find this.

I really do love the style of memes here, but this is my plea to the mods to keep it from getting toxic. Sure, the memes can be super dark at times, but we should really keep the r/femaledaingstrategey stuff out. It’d be awesome if we can keep the comm title as mostly a joke.

This image is just a taste of what’s out there that can be toxic. Feel free to remove it, but I wanted to get a point across for all of our sakes.

  • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneM
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    Trust me, I know full well how bad things can get. I go over to 🤮eddit to pouch memes sometimes, and it saddens me how awful those places can be. It’s a pit of judgemental self hatred that lashes out at everyone just trying to live life.

    I don’t want this place to become like that. I want people to have a safe space where they can be horny and show weakness. I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed of themselves for being imperfect; I want us to take pride in being flawed. So what if you’re lonely and sad now? Most people are. I’m proud of anyone who isn’t depressed, and I’m proud of everyone who hangs on while depressed. Let us all be fail women together! 🤗

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      This place feels like a less horny, more trans offshoot of /r/femcelgrippysockjail and /r/LetGirlsHaveFun.

      I’m glad it’s not /r/femaledatingstrategey or /r/looksmaxingadvice.

      However, I have a hard time imagining any femcel community could be non-toxic, it is somewhat fundamental to the femcel identity.

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      I want people to have a safe space where they can be horny and show weakness. I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed of themselves for being imperfect; I want us to take pride in being flawed.

      It helps, thank you for what you do

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      God I love this community so much. Exactly as I said in my earlier comment: “The moderation here is out of love for the community.” And I’m so happy that that is the case.

      Seriously, thank you for being a great moderator ;w;