And apparently, also when you think that ‘They’ is a perfectly serviceable gender-neutral singular pronoun, but are willing to use other pronouns if asked to.
EDIT: Other removable offenses on Blahaj now include questioning mod/admin decisions and quoting the modlog as a reason why you’re leaving.
“We have to be able to talk about it” is absolutely the core problem. Even if a policy is and will always be ‘just do it, or else,’ we need the ability follow ‘okay’ with ‘but what the fuck?’
If you are dictating how I act, even if it’s just how I act toward you - I have concerns. You are involving me in your thing, and my participation is not always yours to demand.
Can someone declare they are only addressed in iambic pentameter? Or alternating caps? Or without vowels? One could scoff that those aren’t pronouns, and I would say that neither is a fucking lizard. For a word to have meaning, there must be things it does not include. There is always a line.
When the admin genuinely insists ‘you will call that person an attack helicopter, or else,’ then it’s not beyond the pale to ask what happens when someone speaks normally to a self-identified merry little elf who only answers riddles. If the response is ‘I am in bangs but not guts, or else,’ that is drawing the line well beyond what most decent people will participate in. If they can’t safely tell you why - neither you nor they can learn anything.