I’m not sure I should start this conversation and I’ve been rewriting this a lot lol. But I could use some relating and opinions from fellow internet leftists
Ok so, to keep it really simple: I happened to share a meal with somebody I really liked. I have interacted casually (no flirting) for about a dozen minutes total and we exchanged contact because of shared-interests (not dating)
Now my brain is fried
I’m thinking about her way too much and it gives be bad vibes, she probably has no idea and I can’t imagine the sheer horror of realising that someone is thinking this much about you after so little interaction.
I want to be a well-behaved straight (kinda bi but that’s beyond the point) guy, I’m trying to be an ally to the feminist cause, so, failing this spectacularly at behaving normally in relation to women disgust me. I know I can’t remove the patriarchy from my body but I damn wish I could.
Problematic thoughts and unhealthy thoughts aren’t the same thing, I always read the advice as meaning “there is no thoughts you should feel shame over” which is pretty good advice actually because shame doesn’t help correct thought spirals that much
I agree about shame and you’ll notice I mentioned something to that effect (beating yourself up). I think the line between “problematic” and “unhealthy” is a bit hazy, since problematic thoughts tend to be anti-social and anti-sociality is unhealthy.
Yea