I don’t care if something “flies” or not. I don’t want to win an argument or anything. I’m just adding something to think about. Everyone reading this can reach their own conclusion if, were the sides reversed here, they’d be comfortable about the joke. If not… well, I’m a staunch believer in “Don’t do unto others what you don’t want done unto you.”
Everyone reading this can reach their own conclusion
The argument tactic you’re using is called Concern Trolling. I imagine you’re a swell person but you listen to a pundit or youtuber who makes arguments like these. Injecting a bit of uncertainty or skepticism, as a wedge, to get people to begin moving their political views to the right.
Oh, no hint of “concern trolling”. Nothing of the sort. I didn’t voice any concern, I didn’t “inject a bit of uncertainty”. I said out loud what I dislike about the meme. I directly voiced criticism while not attempting to sound like my point of view is the only correct one there is. No “concern” about the trans community whatsoever. Quite the opposite. I just don’t like when whatever group of people does the same things they (rightfully) don’t want to happen to them to others. That’s all.
The whole “but what about the children”-tactic employed by right-wing buffoons is sadly commonplace, as are stupid “influencers” who spread dumb talking points, but believe me: The only thing related to the trans community I’m concerned about is the rise of weirdos who think just because they can’t understand LGBTQ-issues they have the freedom to judge for some reason.
And I get why that would be a valid thing to do. I dislike it personally, but that doesn’t mean my oppinion has or should have any weight. I merely voiced it. There is no need to convince me or anything, I’m not here to seek confrontation, just followed my urge to blow my voice into the ether ;)
That being said, I didn’t immediately connect the red cap to the MAGA movement. I could have, but I’m not from the U.S. so this connection might not be as hard-wired as it is for many other people. Since it’s some sort of formula1-cap that you see here in Germany just as that: A formula1-cap, so that connection was lost on me at first.
Again, “if things were different they’d be different” is still an asinine argument.
Is being talked over by someone without any personal experience in what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a trans joke how you would want to be treated if you were trans?
Things do not happen in a vacuum. A trans person making a joke about a cis person, even a bigoted one, isn’t the same as a cis person making a joke about a trans person. A cis person doesn’t have to worry about being listened to or believed if they talk about how uncomfortable a trans person made them, and in fact there are entire news cycles dedicated to this against trans people for existing in public. They have contributed to hate crimes and murders of trans people.
When jokes about cis men with fragile masculinity have that context I will prioritize the feelings of people who think it’s unfair trans people get to make jokes about cis men.
I don’t want this to turn into a discussion if and how far “punching up” has to be supported or not, so perhaps this might give you some perspective about how I think, since you went into attack mode. I get that you might have perceived me as confrontational, yet I’m not. I may have different views on some things, but that doesn’t make me your opponent.
And for the record: “Flipping the script” as @Franzia called it is the only case where I see value in “punching up, not down”, even if I dislike any “us vs them” punching in general.
I am frustrated as a trans person because you came into a trans space, on a trans run server, to complain about how a meme wasn’t nice enough in a jokey criticism of cis men’s fragile masculinity. It shows you have an ignorance of what it is like to be trans right now in the current political climate, both in the US and Europe, and you are not listening to trans people trying to explain to you why this is not the same as a racist joke.
Trying to remove all context and dissect it and weigh it like a specimen to be analyzed is not a virtue. It doesn’t make you smarter or more fair, it just makes you blind to the actual people and communities this meme is aimed at.
I don’t care if something “flies” or not. I don’t want to win an argument or anything. I’m just adding something to think about. Everyone reading this can reach their own conclusion if, were the sides reversed here, they’d be comfortable about the joke. If not… well, I’m a staunch believer in “Don’t do unto others what you don’t want done unto you.”
The argument tactic you’re using is called Concern Trolling. I imagine you’re a swell person but you listen to a pundit or youtuber who makes arguments like these. Injecting a bit of uncertainty or skepticism, as a wedge, to get people to begin moving their political views to the right.
Oh, no hint of “concern trolling”. Nothing of the sort. I didn’t voice any concern, I didn’t “inject a bit of uncertainty”. I said out loud what I dislike about the meme. I directly voiced criticism while not attempting to sound like my point of view is the only correct one there is. No “concern” about the trans community whatsoever. Quite the opposite. I just don’t like when whatever group of people does the same things they (rightfully) don’t want to happen to them to others. That’s all.
The whole “but what about the children”-tactic employed by right-wing buffoons is sadly commonplace, as are stupid “influencers” who spread dumb talking points, but believe me: The only thing related to the trans community I’m concerned about is the rise of weirdos who think just because they can’t understand LGBTQ-issues they have the freedom to judge for some reason.
The joke is flipping the script on bigots.
And I get why that would be a valid thing to do. I dislike it personally, but that doesn’t mean my oppinion has or should have any weight. I merely voiced it. There is no need to convince me or anything, I’m not here to seek confrontation, just followed my urge to blow my voice into the ether ;)
That being said, I didn’t immediately connect the red cap to the MAGA movement. I could have, but I’m not from the U.S. so this connection might not be as hard-wired as it is for many other people. Since it’s some sort of formula1-cap that you see here in Germany just as that: A formula1-cap, so that connection was lost on me at first.
Shhh, cis bad
Again, “if things were different they’d be different” is still an asinine argument.
Is being talked over by someone without any personal experience in what it’s like to be on the receiving end of a trans joke how you would want to be treated if you were trans?
Things do not happen in a vacuum. A trans person making a joke about a cis person, even a bigoted one, isn’t the same as a cis person making a joke about a trans person. A cis person doesn’t have to worry about being listened to or believed if they talk about how uncomfortable a trans person made them, and in fact there are entire news cycles dedicated to this against trans people for existing in public. They have contributed to hate crimes and murders of trans people.
When jokes about cis men with fragile masculinity have that context I will prioritize the feelings of people who think it’s unfair trans people get to make jokes about cis men.
I don’t want this to turn into a discussion if and how far “punching up” has to be supported or not, so perhaps this might give you some perspective about how I think, since you went into attack mode. I get that you might have perceived me as confrontational, yet I’m not. I may have different views on some things, but that doesn’t make me your opponent.
And for the record: “Flipping the script” as @Franzia called it is the only case where I see value in “punching up, not down”, even if I dislike any “us vs them” punching in general.
I am frustrated as a trans person because you came into a trans space, on a trans run server, to complain about how a meme wasn’t nice enough in a jokey criticism of cis men’s fragile masculinity. It shows you have an ignorance of what it is like to be trans right now in the current political climate, both in the US and Europe, and you are not listening to trans people trying to explain to you why this is not the same as a racist joke.
Trying to remove all context and dissect it and weigh it like a specimen to be analyzed is not a virtue. It doesn’t make you smarter or more fair, it just makes you blind to the actual people and communities this meme is aimed at.