I hope my enby peeps can help me out here.

I am very interested in exploring a more feminine expression, but my starting point is masc-af physically, so anything too feminine too quick is going to have a very hard contrast and I’m definitely more of an “I don’t want to stick out much” kind of person.

Any ideas that may be more androgynous, but not attention grabbing that I can try out? I am not good at picking outfits anyway, so I need all the help I can get.

Like beard and full body hair, so obviously lower cut stuff could be very dysmophic atm.

Maybe something that just feelsmore feminine but may not look it so much. You know? Does this make sense?

  • @hollyberries@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    810 months ago

    Accessories! Hair ties in vibrant colours. Beard beads. Bracelets that aren’t just a leather cord or heavy chain. Same with necklaces. Wear an anklet. Toe rings. Cute finger rings. A brown or black shopper bag can double as a purse if it has a pocket with a zipper.

    I love my long and flowy cardigans, especially black ones that I wear in public.

    Shoes, I’m on a bit of a white shoe kick. Thicc chonky sneakers are popular where I am. A white shoe with coloured laces is 🔥

    • @Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      510 months ago

      I am interested in maybe some cute rings.

      The shoes may be a no go, since finding them the right size for my hobbit feet is difficult enough already

        • @Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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          210 months ago

          In some premium brands that usually has extra width standard, a US 12, other brands 13 wide. I will check out that brand, I’m actually about to need to replace some sneakers.

          • @hollyberries@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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            110 months ago

            13 wide! That was my size when I weighed almost 450lbs. Nicer shoes were hard enough to find back then, so I feel your pain! If you like Converse sneakers, the plain white or cream coloured ones look really nice with sparkle laces ✨ (and they can be dyed)

            • @Blahaj_Blast@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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              Yeah I ended up finding Johnston & Murphy and they were great! They also have women’s styles too! 😉

              It may surprise you, but my highest weight was only 240s. I just have big-ass feet