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  • I struggled with this but eventually figured how to communicate shared experience to show true understanding without hijacking the conversation.

    I used to tell my similar story in detail, so we were basically story swapping. This is fine if you’re just chatting, but not if the other person wants support or validation. There the key is letting them steer the conversation where they need it to go.

    Instead of a story dump, I’ll use a brief response, two sentences at most. For example, if someone is anxious because their dog ran away, it’s as simple as “I once had a pet go missing and I remember how hard that was for me. I’m so sorry.” Then I let them respond and will only expand on what they ask about.


  • I’ve been gambling before and it was fun when I won money. The thing is I know how, with few exceptions with games like poker and blackjack (and only then if you’re skilled), you will ALWAYS lose more money than you win over long enough of a time period.

    I’m a big, walking math machine, though, so I’ve been the person getting a little too tipsy at the roulette table and telling everyone exactly how probability works and that numbers are never “hot”. The roulette dealer was surprisingly amused.




  • It’s also not necessarily indicative of anything. $100M is nothing for Zuckerberg, about 0.05% of his estimated net worth.

    For context, excluding billionaires, your average 42 year old American (Zuckerberg’s age) is worth about $135k*. 0.05% of $135k is about $68.

    Given the choice, would you spend $68 to completely cover you just in case the world falls apart? Most people would. I certainly would.

    *That still includes some pretty wealthy people that skew it higher, so don’t feel bad if you’re not even close in net worth. I’m sure not!


  • Yep, it’s all cumulative. I think the “weight loss is in the kitchen” advice helps those who don’t understand weight loss is a function of net calories, so start exercising and eat more because they think exercise somehow magically makes weight go away. If only I had a nickel for every time I heard “weight lifting converts fat into muscle” over the years…

    My aunt is a great example. She started doing daily walks to lose weight but picked up a “healthy protein smoothie” from a local coffee shop on the way home. She slowly gained weight because they were more like milkshakes and easily had 500+ calories per serving.