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  • Unless you somehow think sex between consenting adults becomes abuse once they take the $4000?

    No its just soul crushing and degrading that’s all. $40 or $4000 doesnt matter, its still giving up one’s dignity and autonomy and allowing oneself to be used for money. If its so rewarding why aren’t those call girls advertising their great life to the world? Because they’re not proud of what they do, and neither are their parents, that’s why. Yes, it matters.

    Find me the pre teen girl that woke up one morning and said, ‘Id really love to be a call girl when I grow up’. They dont. But I would bet you that you WOULD find about 99% of them have been used and abused before they got into that lifestyle. I have literally had a young prostitute say to me, “Well, I’m going to be used anyway, I may as well get paid for it” Does that sound like someone who’s happy in their ‘chosen profession’?


  • The difference between McDonalds and sex work is that the employee isnt giving up their dignity and their body autonomy for someone else’s use (and often abuse). HUGE difference and equating the two is really quite disingenuous. ‘I’ll flip burgers for minimum wage’ is nothing like ‘I’ll suck your dick for $50’

    There are loads of workers content with their jobs? Really? I’d believe you that they were if they actually would say that but you know why they won’t? Because they don’t want people to know what they do. They aren’t proud of the work they do and they know that exposing their work will more than likely cut off the opportunity to do any other regular job in the future. Because inherently, everyone knows that selling your body is soul crushing and demeaning despite the porn industry’s attempt to make it look lucrative and enjoyable. Not surprisingly, its almost always the young and vulnerable who get drawn into it and either right away or after a few bad experiences, they end up leaving. Because its not what its portrayed to be.

    I’d be fine with banning porn if that’s were an option. The world wouldn’t be WORSE off without it. Pretty sure a few thousands generations of people figured out how to have sex and enjoy it before porn came along. Porn sets up false expectations, especially in youth who have no idea that what their watching is not real life and not how women respond. eg. No women has ever groaned in ecstasy cause some dude is jizzing on her stomach for example. Just unrealistic versions of what orgasmic sex is like for a woman because its all made for men by men. Just recently read a report that said that near asphyxiations are become far more common as people come in to emerg units - guess where THAT idea came from? And young people, especially young girls who dont know better think that’s “normal” - its not. Its not normal, and its downright dangerous.

    Yes, people dont just like sex they LOVE it. And Im no prude, I have a great sex life with an amazing wife. But that doesnt mean we make it easier for people, especially women, and vulnerable young people to get into ‘sex work’ Theres nothing good that comes with it and like all other vices, people who argue ‘well we cant stop it so we may as well legalize it’ aren’t usually the people who have to clean up the mess and suffer the consequences when we finally realize we have a big problem with gambling and drug use and drinking and prostitution. Making it legal doesnt solve anything, it just puts a nice veneer on something so we can pretend its not as harmful as it really is.



  • You cant regulate into ‘safety’ something that is abusive by nature. There’s no such thing and the state can’t legitimize something thats illegitimate. The only people who think thats a good idea are those who haven’t seen the dark side of prostitution. Painting over it with nice ideas doesn’t make it any less seedy, manipulative and soul destroying. NO girl ever woke up one day and said, ‘Id really love to be a prostitute when I grow up’ But they do. Because they’re out of options. So the solution is not to find ‘cures’ its to continue to make it illegal and embarrassing as hell for the men who use those services. Its amazing how shining a spotlight on their activity suddenly makes them go home. I wonder why.


  • There’s no positive way to legalize “work” that is based on one person using another. Sex work by its very nature is not only manipulative, its bribing one person to do something they would prefer not to do, for money.

    I worked with quite a few prostitutes (its not ‘sex work’, its prostitution - giving it a prettier name doesn’t do justice to how degrading it really is) years ago and without exception they were doing it because they didnt have any other skills or options and quite a few of them had addictions they needed to feed. It feeds the cycle.

    The one organization in town that was highly successful in getting them out of it, gave them a safe place to live and then trained them in things like receptionist skills or basic accounting. Once they had workplace marketable skills NO ONE ever said, ‘oh I missed being used by shady and abusive men’. Ever.



  • But as a thought experiment: AI images are usually derivative, even faces dont look exactly like the original, they take it and alter it a bit. So if someone takes an image and alters it, and then displays it publicly is it AI generated porn or is it art? Because obviously not all nudes are porn and some erotic art is still art. So a lawyer would have to prove that a) the original person is recognizable enough and therefore an offense has been committed and b) that the image is pornographic and not erotic art. That could be one heck of a challenge.





  • LoveCanada@lemmy.catoAlberta@lemmy.caUCP MLA Apology
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    9 days ago

    It was definitely unacceptable language. But I have to note:

    a) she was actually calling people back. Pretty gutsy considering she knew a lot of people were calling in anger.

    b) when confronted, she made a sincere apology, no ducking and dodging, no PR team to ‘manage’ the damage.

    c) the person who got the call felt the apology was sincere and forgave her

    The whole thing is unusual because its an example of a politician f’ing up and then making good and actually facing up to it. Should be the end of the story.




  • LoveCanada@lemmy.catoCanada@lemmy.caDoug Ford's war on tenants
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    14 days ago

    These changes are long overdue and despite the description as a “gift” to corporate landlords they will be hugely helpful to ‘mom and pop’ landlords and to fix the very broken Landlord Tenant Board.

    The proposed law shortens the rent arrears eviction notice period from 14 days to 7 days and limits tenants’ legal defenses against eviction in these cases.

    If they’re not paying rent, why does a tenant need 14 days for an eviction notice? In AB, we can give notice the day after rent is due, although they still have 14 days to pay after that.

    LTB adjudicators will no longer be permitted to allow tenants to raise disrepair issues at eviction hearings unless tenants have notified the LTB in advance and only if they have paid off 50 per cent of the rent monies the landlord claims they owe before the day of the hearing.

    Good. Because raising “repair issues” AFTER notice for non payment of rent has just been used as a delaying tactic in ON. If they have been raised BEFORE the notice they are likely legit complaints. And paying 50% of rent owing shows they are trying to catch up. Its fair.

    Another one of the new measures proposes to explicitly define the circumstances under which landlords can evict tenants for persistent late rent payments.

    The article doesnt state what those circumstances are but it definitely needs clarification. Being late once or twice on rent is generally not cause for eviction, but if its constant it definitely presents a problem.

    Beyond countering tenant organizing, the legislation’s most drastic proposal was to open the door to eliminating security of tenure altogether. In Ontario, tenancy agreements automatically renew at the end of their term — landlords can’t increase unit turnover rates by signing tenants to expiring leases.

    That one is a bit more controversial. In AB, a fixed term lease just ends on the last day of the lease, there is no tenure. If both sides are happy with the last lease, they usually make an arrangement a month or two ahead of the end date and just sign a new lease. If either party is unhappy, the lease expires and its done, no eviction needed its just over. Tenure works fine when everything is going well, but it also locks in the lease rate to whatever the gov allows.

    These changes do seem to be more in favor of landlords but that’s not a bad thing when the ON Landlord Tenant Board is extremely broken - tenants in ON have dragged out evictions for months and months knowing that there are several ways to game the system and ultimately no one wants to build more rental housing if they cant at least get rents paid so it ultimately hurts tenants by decreasing supply.






  • LoveCanada@lemmy.catoCanada@lemmy.ca*Permanently Deleted*
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    The point is focus. It is futile to point the firehose at the weeds on fire in the flower bed when the entire house is going up in flames.

    And right now to put out the fire the focus should be on the countries that can actually make a difference, primarily China, the US, India and EU next.

    But those also happen to be our biggest trading partners. So in a capitalist country like Canada no one, including the government, wants to damage the bottom line, so instead of having a policy with some teeth like “we will cut our trade with those countries by half until they lower their emissions” what is the message you hear? You hear, “Buy an EV, save the planet” “Get solar panels, save the planet” as if that’s going to actually a dent in emissions in Canada.

    It will make an imperceptible dent but the resounding message is please continue to buy buy buy more products and DONT stop spending money on our trading partners. That doesnt make sense and its why I know that our gov’s are not actually serious about climate change.