• UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world
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    1 month ago

    pro tip: when someone asks “do you understand”, instead of simply confirming you do, it helps a lot to give a short summary of what they were just talking about

    YMMV. I’ve had some really stupid fights come out of “So then A+B+C = X?” -> “No, it’s more complicated than that, you’re not listening.”

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      1 month ago

      Yeaaah, that sounds like a person who has other problems and who’s gonna have to find someone else who cares real quick, with that attitude.

      My wife has two doctorate in medecine and not once in the many years she has used me to do her after work debriefings has she ever uttered something like that.

    • bearboiblake [he/him]@pawb.social
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      1 month ago

      “No, it’s more complicated than that, you’re not listening.”

      “Oh, I’m sorry if I misunderstood, can you explain what I missed?” should avoid arguments. Try not to get personally offended if someone says “you’re not listening” or something: just demonstrate that you actually are.