I do believe this was made with best intentions but it has major “just be happy” energy and is made from a position of privilege.
Just getting a therapist for example is a huge battle. Having supportive friends is not ubiquitous. Changing jobs is risky and in certain financial circumstances almost impossible, especially with dependents.
That said I approve of the message that without living there is no possibility of things getting better. My advice is to focus on small maybe even tiny victories daily making lifestyle changes where possible.
It’s more true to say that you can’t find a better life if you don’t continue living. But that’s not a guarantee that you can.
Survivorship bias. In this case also quite literally?
indeed, sometimes your reward for perseverance is more suffering!
Being a ghost might be fun too. But I have no rush :)
I’d go further and say that you can, but might not
Ok so if I can’t afford to find even a simple therapist finding a good one lol !
Always those with money giving life advice.
Just take the money from the rich. And if you are hungry eat the rich.
https://openpathcollective.org/ provides a long list of therapists that work on an affordable, sliding scale
They think they have figured out some other secret other than freedom to make mistakes because they have the financial backing to make them is what sets them apart.
Life is full of people thinking that if other follow their exact steps it will work without realizing the things they have differently, such as money and resources, even just skills or biological quirks, do make quite the difference in being able to followed.
I’m not against them sharing it worked for them but that’s as far as I feel it goes.
Life is also full of people thinking that if others followed their exact steps there would be no way they could turn their life around. They’re often just as wrong.
There are almost always ways to get help if needed. You just have to want to find it and be willing to accept what help is given.
The comic reads more like “I had an intrusive thought once, and mistook it for being suicidal”.
…good thing he alread had friends, a plan, and a therapist… Oh, and a lake to visit regularly at night. Smacks of privilege.
Oh shit blaming the victim
Now Lemmy is cooking for sure
Exactly! Pathetic ad disguised as life advice.
Sooo… Pushed a huge reset button on their relationships and…
I still don’t get this. This kind of advice doesn’t exactly work for anyone but the person speaking. No one can exactly follow the life of another as we are all completely different.I guess the point that you have some level of free will and can make personal choices is new to some people but that isn’t a fix and doesn’t really resolve anything for depression.
It’s trying a different tactic to handling life but it negates what was causing them misery in the first place. Which is the monotony of life itself to a degree.
This tosses all that in favor of denying finding purpose for just exploding your existence to see if you can build it new in a way that might make you happy but likely will need another reset when it stops working.
I just don’t get it.
I don’t think this is advice as much as it is a story. The advice is “find a better life, whatever that life is.”
That’s very much easier said than done. Aa life is often not so easy to find a better version of but more often a different version.
The advice of stay alive because at least you keep experiencing new things is good advice. Trying for better is a nice idea but a message of do what it takes to make your life “better” is… Fantasy in a way that feels off to me.
I could tell the story of the night I tried to drown myself and all that changed since then but it wouldn’t be better persay. Just changed. The story would sound like meandering prose and little purpose.
I don’t understand the myth of better. It causes misery more in those that do not find it.
You’re right. But if someone I care about is choosing between suicide and explode their relationships, I hope they choose explode their relationships. I’ll be there when they figure out whatever is next. (I know because I have been for someone who did. I’m not delighted with how they handled things, but I’m glad I still have them.)
Oh I am always in favor of life. Suicide is messy, painful and leaves a lot of people with less in their life.
It’s just not a solution as much as a new start point searching for something that doesn’t exist and will likely lead you back to having to do it again.
People can do what they need to or want but I see no comfort for those that follow trying to get a better life. That is why I feel sad seeing people recommending it I guess.
We don’t find utopia on the other side of tomorrow, just more tomorrows.“better” =/= “utopia”
They don’t have to mean the same thing, it’s an expression. And quite a nice one at that.
Sure. I use words that I find match more to the tone of meaning I intend to convey rather than a 1 to 1 of repeating it for the sake of repeating it.
Do you have anything to add to this other than that 2 words I used are not identical?
I’d be interested in your take on reality rather than a pedantic interjection to make it so you feel like you contributed.Please share if you have more but I will consider using simpler prose if that’s all you want to add.
What a twat. Those two words mean different things. A frog would be able to extrapolate my point. Blocked.
What an almost hilariously awful response.
I’m probably better off blocked by you but what an utter disappointment to being offered to offer more to the conversation.
What’s with the attitude?
Did you read his response?
